10 Things Not to Tell a Friend Who Has Been Cheated

Your friend has been betrayed and sought your lap to vent and be comforted, but you are so angry at the man who betrayed her that you want to expose her feelings. But don't do it! The tip of a relationship psychologist is that this moment is just listening to her friend's pain, as some comments may end up making the situation worse. See some examples:

1. Once a traitor, always a traitor.
   You may know that she should never have trusted her partner, but this comment does not improve the situation. Just say, "I can't even imagine how you feel."
2. Men cheat for a reason.
   In fact the reasons that lead to betrayal vary, it may be immaturity or sexual compulsion. In any case, it is not your role to make this analysis or point out guilty parties.
3. At least he didn't?
   Comparing the story with what was experienced by another friend does not ease the pain, but it is as if it belittles the experience she lived.
4. You must forgive / forget.
   If your friend came to you, it is because she trusts you and wants to hear your advice. So be careful what you say, because she needs time to understand her feelings and make the decision. Encourage her only to share the emotions.
5. It was just sex.
   As I said, the reasons can be many and varied. Also, you don't know if it was just for your friend? Sex makes a difference. Avoid this kind of conversation.
6. Call a lawyer immediately.
   If the friend was married, you may think that legal advice is needed. But the decision is premature. You have to wait a while, live the crisis, talk openly with your partner, and then decide what to do.
7. I suspected?
   Even if you already thought your friend was being cheated on, this comment right now is not positive and only makes her feel stupid for not knowing.
8. The other woman is (a derogatory term).
   Speaking badly about the other may seem like a good idea to raise the mood of the betrayed friend, but it isn't. The issue is her relationship with her partner, not the other woman.
9. All men cheat.
   This information is not true. And even if it was, it's not the kind of statement that is good for your friend, as it gives a negative view even about future relationships.
10. You should betray him too.
    That is the worst advice. It is an immature response to the situation. Two mistakes do not make a hit and doing so will only bring more hurt to the relationship. It is best to encourage your friend to think about the kind of relationship she wants.

Via Yahoo Shine

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