15 Things About Overcoming a Love You Can Only Learn Over Time

Your boyfriend broke up with you and you are at rock bottom? We are really sorry that this has happened, as we all know how difficult it is to go through a love disappointment.

But we would also like to tell you that this suffering will not be eternal. The truth is that we didn't even believe it when we were younger, but if you accept some tips from those who have been through this same situation, we guarantee that these 15 things will help you overcome your ex:

1. Yes, you will fall in love again

All this sadness will pass and this person will be left behind, so that you can fall in love and love again? and you won't need to try hard For that, it will simply happen.


2. Count on your friends, but get your balance back

At first, you have every right to cry on your friends' lap, count on them to get rid of your ex's memories and ask them to for the love of God they take you along in every program.

But if the only issue between you is going to be your ending for a long time, it won't be very cool for them. If you feel you still need to talk more about this, it may be time to look for therapy.

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3. There is no deadline when you? Owe? stop suffering

Have you heard that the time to recover from a breakup is half the length of the relationship? For you can forget this story. Maybe you feel good before this and maybe you take longer? The fact is that each person needs their own time to live and overcome grief.

4. You are not exaggerating

It may even be that older people say that an ending is not a reason for so much suffering? and that after a while you even agree with them. But if this is how you really feel, then you are not exaggerating. Just keep in mind that it will pass.

5. It's OK to hate your ex, but don't get attached to it

You have every right to hate your ex and anything that reminds you of him, especially if he cheated on you or otherwise hurt you. However, the sooner you get rid of this anger, the faster you will stop worrying about it.


6. It's better to cut relationships on social networks

At least at first, it's best not to have access to your ex's updates on Facebook, Instagram, etc. After all, trying to understand what each and every enjoyment it means will not help you, it will only create more suffering.

7. It's not your fault

Don't fall into the trap of thinking you weren't good enough for him. You might not be the ideal person for this moment, but you cannot measure your value from someone else's expectations.

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8. Drink and cell phone don't match

You may have deleted the contact from your list, but if you know his number by heart, it's not hard to be tempted and send a crying audio in the middle of the night after a few more cups. So try not to overstep or leave your phone with your friend.

9. Don't take the anger out on his new girlfriend.

It may even be that she has weird hair and you may feel a little better for a while when looking for defects in your ex's current, but the decision is to decide whether to end it or not. It's not worth wasting your time hating someone you don't know.

10. If you were nervous about him, celebrate!

Remember every time he went missing, treated you badly or made you feel insecure. Now that the relationship is over, it doesn't belong to you anymore! If you were always nervous about your ex, celebrate, because you no longer have to worry about any of it.

11. He's not that amazing

He may be cute and funny, but a truly amazing person is one who will make you feel loved and valued. Does love often put filters in our eyes? You will soon realize that he was not that perfect, much less irreplaceable.

12. It's OK If You Can't Be Friends

It is very difficult to maintain a friendship with a person with whom you had very intimate moments, especially if you were hurt. Becoming friends with your ex does not necessarily mean that you are a more mature person, so don't feel guilty about cutting off any kind of relationship.

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13. Avoid self-destructive behaviors.

Locking up at home for months, abandoning your commitments, overdoing your drinking, or going out with everyone just for revenge and unwillingness are all behaviors that will only hurt your life. None of this will help you get over your ex because the problem will be within you.

14. Turn your feelings into something positive.

Instead of adopting the above behaviors, try to turn those feelings into something positive. Dedicate yourself to study and career, enroll in the gym, join a volunteer program, or plan to take a trip: this is the time to think about being good for yourself.

15. It didn't work out because it didn't have to work

After some time you will understand that this relationship could not work and should succeed. You may realize that your ex was not what you imagined (and he would have no place in your life today), or you know someone else with whom you will be much happier.

You will not suffer forever. It's hard to accept this when we're young and going through our first love disappointments, but believe this message from the future: it will all pass, you will feel good, your ex's memory will no longer make a difference and you will come back to love. Be alright!

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