When a child is born, parents are also born responsible for the education of that child in order to give the world a right, honest, educated citizen and also to have a child who has a good, peaceful and happy life. Unfortunately, however, when a child is born, parents are not mailed a manual on how to raise their children.
Thus, the child's education takes many forms and the way parents act is a mixture of intuition and knowledge acquired over the years and through readings and reports from other parents. However, in this process, parents may end up doing some things that they think are right, but that can have a negative impact on their children's education. Here are some phrases that some parents often say with good intentions but have a negative result, check it out.
1 ? You can't do anything at all!
This type of statement can have a very bad impact on your child's self-esteem. When his own parents diminish him by saying that he has no talent or can do nothing, it undermines his son's image of himself. This can lead to two consequences: a good one, when he decides to be the best at everything to prove that he is not useless, and a bad one, when he accepts this image of uselessness and acts as such.
Since it is not possible to guess what the consequence will be, the healthiest thing to do is always to recognize your child's achievements and never to point out defects. Never say that your son "knows nothing", because that, besides being cruel, is impossible to be true.
2 ? I'm leaving without you!
One of the things parents need is for their children to believe and trust them. Therefore, stating that you are going to abandon him is a wrong way to try to convince your child to leave somewhere. Over time he will realize that this is just a strategy to make him go away and will end up losing confidence in what you say. Therefore, agree with him in advance that you will leave when you say so and if you are going to use any measure to discipline him, prefer to use a more palpable tactic, without lies or false threats.
3? Apologize now!
The way to a child's upbringing is not to force him to do everything you believe is right. In fact, the ideal is always to show him good examples and encourage him to follow these examples. In situations where your child does something that deserves an apology, if your child does not, do it for them in an attempt to show what is the right behavior at the moment. Over time, the child naturally learns what the function of the apology is and incorporates it into their daily lives.
4? You're not a little baby anymore!
At times it may seem that your 8-year-old is acting as if he is only 3. This may be an indicator that he is having trouble and needs guidance, a parent's guide on how to act at that time. Therefore, criticizing him will do no good. An 8 or 9 year old will not understand what it is to act as such age. Therefore, when you get angry because your child is having a tantrum or 3-year-old morning, stop and take a deep breath. Do not react immediately. Stop and think calmly about what should be done.
5? Will I have to repeat a thousand times?
It is normal for a child to forget something even if he has to do it every day or very often. It is therefore important to have a lot of patience to repeat again without exaltation. A tip to help your child's memory is to invest in games that develop this skill and also create fun strategies for him to remember to brush his teeth, do the task among other children's commitments. Remember: if he forgets, repeat again, perhaps in a different way, but don't give up and don't lose your temper. Much less do what he must do.
10 Things Parents Should Never Do for Their Kids (April 2024)
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