5 ways to exercise your outgoing side

A study in June 2013 and published in the Journal of Research in Personality showed that being outgoing as a young person makes people feel happier over time and as they age. UK researchers interviewed over 2,500 people with questions about their personality and how they behaved between 16 and 26 years. Based on these data, their satisfaction with life was assessed more than three decades later, when they were around 60, and the results showed that the most outgoing in their youth were happier with their lives.

Personality is partially genetically determined and tends to be quite stable from early adulthood. But some research shows that people who are satisfied with their relationships and work tend to become a little more extrovert over time, ”says Catharine Gale, author of the study.

Here are ways to build friendships and invest in a happier future:


  1. Make a good first impression
  2. They say the first impression is that it stays. Therefore, some tips may be helpful when meeting someone. Try moving your eyebrows up when you are close to the person, then reach out to greet. This helps you feel more open and receptive, as well as telling the other person that you're sympathetic, according to Patti Wood, author of "Snap: First Impressions, Body Language, and Charisma." She suggests practicing in the mirror first.

  3. Make a friend
  4. For extroverts it's easy to take the initiative and talk to people, making new friends. And having friends has a beneficial impact on health, as they make the good times even better and make the hard times easier to manage. But meeting new friends is not natural for everyone. If that's the case, Patti Wood recommends setting a goal of meeting a new person each week. As you approach someone, ask questions like? Where are you from ?? What do you do??. It may sound simple, but it is an opportunity to discover commonalities.

  5. Balance the conversations
  6. Not too chatty, not too quiet. So when you finish a conversation with a friend, ask yourself which voice you heard most during the conversation. If the other person has not said much, then you probably talk too much and hear too little. In the next conversation, try asking one question at a time and listening to what the other has to say before making a comment. This makes the person feel understood and the relationship grows stronger.


  7. Chat at work
  8. Look in the workplace where people usually meet to chat. Set a goal and try to meet it by going there for five minutes on a particular day of the week. Start small, find common ground during conversations, and eventually ask if anyone wants to have lunch with you.

  9. Talk about positive topics
  10. When going out to lunch with co-workers or new friends, always try to talk about positive stories. If you spend time telling, for example, about your broken car, there will be a negative association with you. Instead, talk about a new restaurant you like, your favorite yoga class, and other topics that make you look more sympathetic at the stage when friendship is still being built. In the end, always say something like, "It was great talking to you, let's do it again." Remember that the last thing you say is what will be in the memory of the other person.

Via Huffington Post

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