On the road to female leadership, we can find a number of reasons that get us in the way: statistics, pay gap, lack of opportunities. All these obstacles are real, but today I want to talk about what happens inside us. Our greatest enemies are internal. If we fight them, we get stronger to face the outside world.
I believe a big barrier to woman's professional growth it is the guilt she carries, even if unconsciously, for not being home. Guilt happens when we have beliefs within us that differ from our experience.
We live guilty because we work, study, have children, travel for work. But I ask one question: Did our grandparents (who had ten or more children) spend more or less time per child in their daily lives?
In a way these ten children also had busy mothers with other chores. Even if they are taking care of other children and household chores.
Today we only have two children on average, and because we work we feel guilty for not being able to meet their needs. Ask your grandparents if in their time it was the father's or mother's role to play with their children. I already tell you that most of the time the answer will be negative. But still, we feel guilty because we don't play enough, because we're not close enough. But what does the word enough really mean?
Another guilt that still lingers is that of the role of housewife: In the old days women spent the day tending the house. But ask these women if they had dishwashers, clothes, dryers, microwaves, and various objects that shorten housework. What I mean is: Does it still make sense to carry the same mental model if the world and the craft itself have changed so much?
I find women absolutely exhausted because they have to work, raise their children, and still feel guilty when they find the messy house. With this they spend the weekend cleaning the house instead of sleeping, resting, dating and hanging out with the people they love. This is a very heavy burden! No wonder the average age of women with cancer and heart problems has dropped so much.
The problem is clear to me: He is called anachronism. It happens when we carry values from another time to ours. Today it makes no sense to carry the same sense of duty of a world that no longer exists, we live in a new world under a new dynamic.
The problem is that the world always changes faster than our culture and our mental patterns, and the result is an entire generation of women, who to a greater or lesser degree feel guilty of working, have a home and children.
The issue is not easy to solve. I believe we can play various roles, but we need to know how to prioritize, plan and why not: resign. Personally, if on the one hand I have an intense professional life; on the other I have postponed, courses, masters, trips to even dreams to be a mother and wife. To this day I limit my professional agenda for these other roles.
I move on, I don't know what the outcome will be, but I know the choices are mine and no one should pay for them, because I did it for myself, for the woman I chose to be, and I try to live a full, role-free, blameless life. .
Finally, in the face of so many suggestions and influences that tell us what is right and what is wrong, I have a suggestion: let us women say what is right and what is wrong within our reality; within the possibilities we have inside and outside ourselves, and as far as possible to live a blameless and meaningful life. Do you accept the challenge?
The best way to change living standards is to improve thinking patterns. (Andressen)
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