He hissed, now what?

It is almost inevitable that someday your partner will fail at H time. Some women end up blaming themselves when this happens, thinking they are not fit or attractive enough for their mate. But it is not usually what happens.

Even with a hot climate, there are many factors that can influence male performance. In many cases, it is external factors or its problems that interfere with erection. Thinking that the problem is you is the first step to becoming less attractive in a man's eyes. So no body complaining and expecting the man to praise you, not at a time like this.

The real culprits

When man fails at hour H, the great cause of it may have been a simple inopportune thought. Remembering problems at work, thinking about your mother or grandmother, or remembering your ex-girlfriend can be daunting factors for any man.

Some men also have a problem with condoms. Several of them are unable to get used to the condom and this can make them blush at sex. But even then it's important that the two talk and try more often until he gets used to it, because sex without a condom should always be avoided.

Another point that can make a man fail to have an erection is when he does not feel manly enough. For example, in couples where women earn more than men, some men feel their masculinity threatened and this can result in erection problems. Not to mention that when this happens it becomes a snowball and the man gets even lower self-esteem.

Woman can help to avoid this problem

If this has happened or is happening frequently with your partner, discreetly find out why this situation. So you can try to spice up your sex with some tips or do something he has always wanted and you have never come across. Wearing a nice lingerie and being very affectionate in bed can also help feed the boy's imagination and drive him crazy for you.

What to do when he blows?

If he has blown, the ideal is to remain calm and try not to pay too much attention to what happened. The erection problem is not the end of the universe and neither should despair. If you can handle the situation with patience and relaxation it is possible that later in the evening the boy will be able to finish what he has started.

In any case, try not to blame yourself or blame him for this little nuisance. It may just be a bad time, and your relationship probably doesn't need any more discussion or tension over an unhappy sex. However, if it is constant, it may be interesting to look for a sex therapist or urologist.

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