We receive a lot of information about us every day. Sincere opinions, superficial opinions, unnecessary opinions and positive opinions. In the midst of this whirlwind of judgments about us, we often end up absorbing only bad talk about us and leaving the good behind, that's normal.
It is common not to believe in the compliments that make us and make ourselves a victim always putting us down and showing what we have bad. But this is not healthy for us and our relationships. To prevent negative comments from affecting you, here are some tips.
Relate criticism to your attitude, not to you
When people make a criticism of you, the criticism usually refers to the situation or attitude you took that you did not think was right. Unfortunately, people do not always know how to express it correctly and end up criticizing the person instead of attitude. So always keep an eye out for when the criticism is personal and when it is a criticism of something you have done.
Filter the comments you hear
When someone is criticizing you or something you have done, filter the comments that are constructive. Unfounded Reviews or argument should be discarded and never overvalued. Learn to understand which criticism can lead you to real improvement and which criticism just wants to let you down. So you hear only what may be helpful to you and not what can bring you negative feelings.
Prefer to be angry and not sad about the comments
If someone has really tried to destroy you with comments, turn what can be sadness into energy, so that comment will make you want to be even better. You know that person who said you could never get where you want to go, show them that you can and you can! Use this energy of anger to build good things for you, never to try to destroy others to promote yourself.
Value your opinion, do not overvalue the opinion of others
While other people know you superficially and few of you know you well, you're the one who knows the most about you and your abilities, so why give more value to what a person said and not value your knowledge and opinion of yourself same? Stop cherishing the opinion of an employer who turned you down, and pay more attention to what you know you can and do.
Anyway, whenever hear a critique don't take it personally and carry the comment like a tattoo that will never leave you. Today you didn't get that job, but tomorrow you can get another one. Everything changes, people change and you change. But the point is to change for the better, to evolve, and not to let these obstacles in life stop you and not let you run after your dreams and conquer them. You can whatever you want, believe me.
How to Deal With Criticism | Marisa Peer (April 2021)