When a pregnancy is announced, the couple begins to prepare the details for the arrival of the baby. The sensations of pregnancy, however, are unique to the mother, so the father often feels left out or unable to actively participate in these special months.
It is then up to the woman to learn to deal with these male insecurities and to include her partner in all the details of the process. It is up to the husband to seek information about pregnancy and to be active and interested in events over the 9 months.
Here are some tips to facilitate this inclusion of men in pregnancy:
1. Be original in breaking the news
From the moment you find out you're pregnant, think of a creative and exciting way to break the news to your new dad. This careful attention to detail will show that you make a point that he is present at every moment in this new phase, as well as how happy he is to be the father of your baby.
2. Help him understand what you are feeling
As he studies and learns about pregnancy, you can help him understand the moment by talking about the physical and emotional sensations you are experiencing. Talk about changes each new week and let them know when your gynecologist will see you and the prenatal ultrasound sessions you are attending. This will facilitate the father's involvement with the child even before birth.
3. Count on him for support
Is the maelstrom of hormones that a pregnant woman goes through still a challenge for medicine? and for psychology. Exaggerated and sudden reactions such as uncontrolled crying or nervous attacks are as common as the famous desires of pregnant women.
And your partner should be there to help deal with this whole situation. So keep the communication open so you can talk despite the hormonal confusion. Let me know when you are not feeling well whenever possible. In this delicate moment, it is also up to the man to have the sensitivity to realize that the woman is experiencing very different situations and sensations and needs to be understood and respected.
4. What if he is jealous of the attention now going to the baby?
Although it is strange, many men go through it. Lack of experience with motherhood, immaturity and lack of knowledge about pregnancy and its phases can generate feelings in some men such as jealousy and insecurity. And this is one of the main factors that contributes to it moving away during the gestation period.
The solution is to integrate the father into the new family routine, including him in everything related to pregnancy and to pay attention to him. Make it clear to your partner that this baby is the result of your love? and that comes to improve what was already good and that both should pay attention to both the baby and the relationship. Be sure to talk and take advantage of the discovery phase to get even closer.
PREGNANCY SURVIVAL GUIDE FOR MEN | HANNAH MAGGS (August 2021)