Single by choice

In the past, women received a marriage-oriented education, and a successful woman was the one who was married with children. Many of them ended up with the company of men who weren't exactly what they wanted, after all, they worked hard all day to support their homes and families. In addition, these women lived in a dome, without working outside or knowing other men, which completely undermined their critical sense in the relationship.

However, things have changed. In recent decades women have been experiencing a succession of changes with regard to their life in society. This new way of dealing with the world has also influenced changes in relationships and the role they have come to play in this new phase of women.


Women today only depend on men if they want to. 21st century women work and care for themselves, some also sharing their time with their children and others with their partner.

This new female lifestyle has made the woman more critical and perhaps too much. After all, now she's the one who pays her own bills and decides what she wants or doesn't want for her life.

Impact on Relationships

This renewal made women stronger and more present in society, but it also had some side effects. Today women do many things and always seek to do them to perfection and end up charging it in relationships. Finally, the excess of criticism ends up making the woman complain too much, never satisfied and that the man does not change for not accepting that they want to change him.


But these changes in female behavior played a very important role in cases of unhealthy relationships. Before the woman accepted the way the man treated her without question, today the woman knows very well that unhealthy relationships with excessive jealousy and possessiveness are not good for her and that she can leave these relationships at any time. The woman is not so afraid of being alone anymore, because she knows how to take care of herself.

Many women, already aware of the risks of a relationship, already open the game and show how they are right away for the man to see if it is that kind of relationship he wants or not. There no longer seems to be a need to change to please the alpha male, but to be true to one's personality, values ​​and tastes.

Women stay in a relationship for different reasons than before. The woman now wants a mate, a partner, not a superior being at home who decides everything for her, including deciding what she likes and dislikes.


Relationships remain very important to the female universe, but they are no longer the only thing that matters. For a man to be with a woman they must be walking side by side, without superiority on either side and with affection, attention, understanding and surrender of both.

Fearless singleness

Given these factors, many end up opting for single life. Women have learned that they do not need a man on the side to feel that they are someone and that they can enjoy their own company.

Some don't have time for relationships, others have been hurt a lot and prefer to be alone. There are even those who prefer to be with friends than in a relationship with a man, because the chances of incompatibility are high.

In addition, the centered woman who values ​​herself and invests in herself becomes far more attractive than those who live looking for a partner and trying to get men's attention. These women know their importance and ability and do not give up their lives for unrealistic ideals.

Firmness and grounding can often seem cold, but it keeps you prepared for the ups and downs of single or committed life. But regardless of the lifestyle you choose, maintaining balance is crucial.

Although women today have more freedom in choosing to relate to someone or remain single, there is still a bit of prejudice against women who choose not to build a family in the traditional style. But if you feel well single and the affective side of your life is well served with friends and family, there is no reason to fear being alone.

‘Single by choice?’ The benefits of choosing YOU — Susan Winter (March 2024)


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