I bet you thought about it quickly and already got the answer, but the silence goes far beyond wordlessness.
According to the Michaelis dictionary, some of the definitions for silence are: complete absence of noise; state of being silent or abstaining from speaking; refusal to speak or voluntary refusal to speak, to pronounce any word or sound, to write, to express one's thoughts.
It is easier to interpret the other's silence only as the lack of an answer, but when we stop to look calmly it is clear that behind the closed stance in front of a question there are many unanswered answers.
When we relate this issue to marriage, we surely remember some situations we have been through or even heard a friend report.
Many men or women have a hard time talking about feelings, a sensitive subject that almost always resembles a heated discussion, because we end up choosing a path that is not assertive to achieve a good outcome.
Silence can mean so many things that go beyond just being quiet, like not wanting to expose what you really feel so as not to hurt the other, not knowing how to say something you dislike, but most importantly here is to make it clear that when the other doesn't Answering our questions is also a way of saying something.
Silence can also be yes, it can be no, and often this way of being quiet should be better understood, because we are looking for words when in fact silence already says all we need to know, isn't it?
So we need to reflect on what we are looking for? What truth is this that we want so much to hear that needs to be reinforced by the words of the other? We may think that listening will make it easier to make a decision, but what you are looking for is a greater pain often, as if only in this way will you have the courage to take action.
Important tips for dealing with silence
Don't assume the whys for the other: This aspect is very common in the fight of couples, because always? that the other did something according to our personal references on a particular subject. It is important to make room for listening and then reflect on the other's point of view.
Don't blame the mate: Blaming someone will not help the couple's communication, we need to talk about what we feel, why, and wait for the reaction and explanation of the other, because accusing only brings more hurt in the relationship of the couple. If it does not go the way you would like, be able to silence and make the right decisions at the moment.
Learn to read the silence: We often know clearly what silence means, but we ignore and want clear communication. But each has a way of being, and if you can understand these messages, you will be able to harmonize with your partner.
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