You are in a relationship, have been out a few times and are getting to know each other. Hence arises the desire, attraction and desire for more intimacy and a sexual relationship. But it is certain that a first time between a couple It can cause anxiety and fear.
Even if the two are no longer virgins, are there many questions that linger in the mind? especially the woman, who is always full of pipes. Will the person like me? Will I live up to your expectations in bed? Is he affectionate? There are many questions, but you have to be calm so as not to ruin a delicious moment with insecurities.
For sexologist Carmen Janssen?feel a little anxiety the first time, it's part of the game. The expectation may be healthy when it is stimulating and positive, but feeling fear and insecurity blocks our naturalness ?, explains.
For this she warns, that the woman should not go to the meeting as if it were for a job interview, in which she will be evaluated, but relax and have confidence. "At the time of sex, ask how the person likes the stimuli, after all you are not psychic and sex needs communication," warns the expert.
The lack of intimacy of the couple can cause blockages in the woman's time to tell the man what she likes or dislikes in sex, but there is no magic formula for that to speak. "Take advantage of the moment when caresses are going on, say what you like and like, but in an engaging way, of course."
The expert states that a sexual relationship involves many feelings such as chemistry and affinity. "A woman can be very good in bed and yet be forgotten, not only the impeccable performance that depends on an unforgettable night," he warns. That is, do not think of being "the best", but in having and pleasure in that act.
When dealing with emotions there is a lot of subjectivity. Have the maturity to engage in caressing, allow yourself to feel pleasure, interact sensitively, communicate sexually using the senses and occasionally the words. But do not create unrealistic expectations, for there are no guarantee recipes for sex and love. It is necessary to experience? Warns the expert.
also there are no rules of what is prohibited or not to do, you only need to respect your and your partner's integrity. “Do nothing against your principles,” Carmen says.
And if after a first time a little misfit with nervousness and a certain shame you want other dates, invest in the second, third, fourth, fifth time. For over time intimacy tends to increase and consequently the sexual relationship also becomes more mature and pleasurable. Be yourself and surrender, allow yourself to feel pleasure.
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