It doesn't matter if you are a virgin or experienced: everyone has at least some doubt about sex. From the most insecure to the most confident person, there is always something about the subject that is in doubt or uncertainty.
Often these issues are not resolved because they run into misinformation and especially shame. Addressing controversial issues is not easy for anyone, and many, even in front of doctors, cannot feel comfortable asking certain details.
The questions are endless and concern everything related to sex, such as relationship with partner, illness, physical issues or sexual behavior.
The good thing is, the more you know about sex, the better it gets. Yes, because having confidence in what is happening and knowing how to deal with the issues that arise will make it easier to have fun and enjoy without fears or worries.
Check out some of the most controversial questions about sex answered at the tip of your tongue:
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Female orgasm
1. What are multiple orgasms?
Multiple orgasms are successive orgasms or peaks of orgasms in the same relationship. This is when the woman after arousal climaxes and remains there without interruption. Do you have an orgasm, then another, then another and so on ?, says Lelah Monteiro, sexologist and psychoanalyst for Radio Globo AM 1100kHz SP. They occur because the clitoris does not relax immediately after orgasm. But it is also a feature that these sequential orgasms are less intense than the first.
2. What is the difference between orgasm and ejaculation?
Dr. Barbara Murayama, gynecologist and coordinator of the 9 de Julho Hospital Women's Clinic, explains:? Orgasm is the peak of sexual pleasure. Is ejaculation the act of release of sperm by man? Or a fluid by woman, stimulated by sex or masturbation, although the latter is rarer. One does not necessarily need the other.
3. Is it possible to make my vagina narrower?
Yes, it is possible to make the vaginal canal narrower. For this there are perineal exercises or pompoarism. These are exercises specific to the region. To strengthen it is necessary to isolate the other muscles and focus on that. It sounds easy, but it takes dedication and focus. They can be made with accessories or without ?, reveals sexologist Lelah Monteiro.
4. What is the difference between vaginal orgasm and clitoral orgasm?
Lelah clarifies that clitoral orgasm is the one that is achieved with clitoral stimulation and vaginal orgasm is what comes with vaginal canal stimulation, stressing that women can reach orgasm as much through sexual incursion, ie penetration. What about masturbation? Either way, clitoris arousal will always be tied to orgasm. Even penetration excites him because he is so much larger than the small part that is visible.
5. Is it old enough to have a better orgasm?
At any age one can reach orgasm. Experience appears as a good ally, and the more knowledge of your body, the more likely you are to have more frequent and higher quality orgasms. For this, the best formula remains self-knowledge.
6. Why can't I reach orgasm during sex? In masturbation I always get it!
Whatever the type of orgasm, in women it will always be clitoris related. When you do the work yourself, you know exactly where to play, the right time, the pressure, and everything. But men end up thinking more about penetration or often do not even remember the clitoris. The best way to achieve an orgasm during a relationship is to be able to tell your partner where to touch, how to do it, explain that the clitoris is important, and perhaps oral sex? For many women this is the best secret.
Lelah Monteiro points out that "for many reasons many women cannot reach orgasm with penetration, from psychic, emotional, cultural, religious and traumatic issues to physical issues such as vaginismus, vulvodynia and endometriosis."
7. My lubrication is not the way I expected, what to do?
According to gynecologist Barbara Murayama, we need to investigate why so often the problem is just a lack of careful foreplay that facilitates and stimulates lubrication. One of the common problems is the drop in hormone rates, which usually happens in the postmenopausal phase and causes vaginal dryness, and thus decreased lubrication.Treatment may include lubricating gels, topical or systemic hormone replacement. Should treatment be individualized ?, he explains.
Masturbation
8. Why is masturbating good?
The best tactic for self-awareness remains responsible masturbation. Sexual pleasure is an inherent aspect of the human being and unraveling it should not be seen as a dirty or degrading thing. Sex will only be really good when you can know the particulars of your body better than anyone.
"Masturbation does not hurt, you only need to take care of hand hygiene and also erotic objects, such as the vibrator, when used, and it is indicated to use only proper objects for this purpose," adds Dr. Barbara Murayama.
9. Can clitoris size be related to pleasure?
Some women have the most visible clitoris and others have it more hidden. This has nothing to do with female pleasure. In fact, the clitoris is much larger than the small part of it that is exposed, in fact it extends all over the vaginal canal.
10. Have you found Point G?
Answer the sexologist Lelah Monteiro: Yes, we find the point G or Grafenberg. It is located within the vaginal canal, about 4 cm from the introduction of your finger. It is easier to find if you are well turned on. To stimulate the region make touches with medium pressures ?.
Sexuality
11. Can you have sex on the first date?
Clinical psychologist and psychotherapist Valeria Cavallari points out that conservative values of old still influence women's sexual freedom: “Psychologically, we women carry the same values as our ancestors, that is, we believe what has been passed on from generation to generation. : which men like and respect the most difficult and family women. Let's say this is not all wrong, because all that is more difficult is challenging and messes with fantasy. Pure horny. But it is also exciting for men, the woman who knows what she wants, who decides and takes on her actions. In fact, this is what men are most looking for in women today. Will it only be wrong to quit at first if it is not properly taken?
12. Is there age to lose your virginity?
The answer is clinical relationship psychologist Pamela Magalhães: “There is no right age to lose your virginity. There is a moment of sufficient emotional maturity to live this experience with balance and awareness. Starting sex early can lead to various emotional complications, as we do not yet have the resources to literally enjoy this experience?
13. Is it common to feel like it all the time? And not feel almost never?
There are phases of life, especially adolescence, which precisely because it is a phase of great development and discovery, sexuality is lived intensely, curious and very voracious. But are older people physiologically more prone to desire, what if we are not talking about those who have considerable sexual compulsion? What would be considered pathological? and finding a partner who has a compatible pace, I see no problem. Conflict will only exist when a partner with a great sexual appetite insists on relating to someone with little interest in the practice ?, says Pamela Magalhães.
She also warns that not feeling like sex all the time can indicate low libido, which occurs due to various factors such as hormonal changes or even emotional illnesses such as depression. There are also people who do not see sex as a pleasurable practice or who do not have a partner who can stimulate or make sexuality viable and therefore do not have sex. If the decision does not cause any conflict and the individual lives well with that choice, it must be respected.
Anal sex
14. Is anal sex bad for my health?
Anal sex will only hurt if unprotected because there is a greater chance of STD transmission than in vaginal sex. Anal sex can also increase diseases such as anal fissures and hemorrhoids, for example. It is therefore recommended to do so with the aid of specific lubricants for sexual activity.
15. And does it hurt?
Just like a hair tug or a pat, at the time of sex, pain can turn into pleasure. If you have never had anal sex or experienced stimulation in the area, it may be a little more difficult. The best way is to bet on multiple stimuli by asking your mate to masturbate you while penetrating her from behind. It takes patience to gradually get used to it. The good news is that the more you practice, the easier and better it gets.
16. If I don't like anal sex, do I have a problem?
Each should do what they like or, at the very least, tolerate well, to please who you like.The suggestion is: always try more, give your wishes wings and allow yourself to live your fantasies. But if anal sex or any other modality does not please you, respect your limits not to end up getting hurt, either physically or morally. People are different and each one has a preference, so don't worry if you don't want to do something that everyone tells you to do.
Homosexuality
17. What if I want to have sex with a woman?
Sexuality should not be viewed as a label or box where it goes in and never goes out. The social pressures are still there, still influencing sexual freedom a lot. Feeling like having sex with a woman doesn't make you weird or wrong. Nor does it magically make you a homosexual. The important thing is to understand well what you want and how far you can get.
The psychologist Maria Lúcia Bueno de Miranda adds that nowadays, people are taking more of their sexual choice and many going deep into their curiosities. It seems that everyone wants to live every possible experience. The fantasies are huge, and if he has an internal authorizer, does he end up allowing himself for this experience without any problem?
18. Can I get a disease even in relation to another woman?
Yes. If relationships happen without protection, the risks are the same.
19. Is a man who likes anal stimulation gay or has a problem?
The anal area is a natural erogenous point. What usually prevents people from enjoying such stimuli is even social barriers, and this is especially true in the male universe. "No, he has no problem, people like anal affection, because it is a zone well irrigated by blood vessels, which increases the pleasure," argues Maria Lucia.
Sex in the relationship
20. Can you have sex during menstruation?
Of course! For many women this is even a period of increased excitement. And the fluid released by menstruation is no worse than soiling the sheet.
21. Is lack of sex in the relationship normal?
Each couple has a profile and a way of perceiving sexuality in their life. Frequency is neither determined nor a rule, it should be a consensus between the two. Sex should not only be understood as "coitus", but associated with caresses, attention, closeness, contact, among other demonstrations of desire. When none of these practices that derive from the couple's sexuality occur, is it a sign that the distancing and cooling of the relationship may exist, and the relationship then deserves to be reviewed ?, analyzes psychologist Pamela Magalhães.
22. Is hair removal that important?
They answer:
ÜIt is important, but not essential. When there is routine in the relationship I don't think it's so important, but when the relationship is at the beginning or it is fleeting, I find it relevant. Icarus, 36 years old, teacher.
"If you have a million or none, that's not the point when I'm with someone." Roberto, 33 years old, journalist.
I think it's a cultural issue. I would not stop being with someone who does not shave, but it is cultural for the Brazilian woman to shave. Turns out that because I was raised like that, I think it's a better looking shaved woman in general ?. John, 26, promoter.
"I'm not going to stay, but it's interesting to see that everything is fine, well-groomed." Pedro, 33 years old, computer technician.
23. How to introduce erotic toys in sexual intercourse?
Psychologist Lelah Monteiro suggests: “I always say that before you bring them into your relationship, start alone. Find out how they work, how they like it, break some internal taboos and you're done. From then on be subtle, show that it is one more way to reach pleasure together and not a substitute or competitor for your intimacy?
STDs and AIDS
24. Can oral sex pass diseases?
Yes, just like vaginal sex. The indication is that it should always be done with a condom, and avoided when there is damage to the mouth or genitals.
25. What are the most common communicable sexual diseases today?
Gynecologist Barbara Murayama lists: HPV, herpes, trichomoniasis, HIV, gonorrhea, syphilis, chlamydia infection, among others.
26. How can I tell if my partner has an STD?
Some STDs have no visible symptoms and it will only be possible to know from the routine examinations. Some may present with warts for HPV and wounds, such as herpes and syphilis, for example. Other signs are smelly discharge from the woman or penis ?.
27. How to say that he may have a sexually transmitted disease or problem?
Such a situation will never be easy to solve. If the relationship is long and stable, it is likely to be more intimate, so it is simpler to talk openly with your partner about illness and treatment. But if the relationship is recent and not so intimate, such a conversation can cause discomfort and shyness.The best way is sincerity, always accompanied by a lot of waist play. Be calm and make it clear that your concern is just for their health and that these things happen. No complaining to the boy or joking about it. The main thing is that you both stay healthy and safe.
28. If I have had HPV is it good to have me vaccinated now?
• It is considered cured of this infection who controls and has no HPV lesions for two years. After this time many gynecologists have already recommended that the vaccine be applied to prevent further infections ?, explains Dr. Barbara.
Fetishes
29. Are sadomasochistic fetishes unusual or wrong?
According to psychologist Maria Lucia Bueno de Miranda, this will depend on the degree of sadomasochism and frequency: “These fetishes are more common than we think, but everything has a limit. If pleasure is only linked to pain, then we see a problem. However, if it is agreed between the couple and the practice offers pleasure to both, anything goes.
30. Why is pain or violence often linked to sexual pleasure?
Fetishes are usually related to forbidden practices or out of the ordinary experiences, and forbidden tends to be more exciting, messing with adrenaline levels. Research indicates that some sadomasochistic activities alter the release of certain pleasure-related hormones, such as cortisol and dopamine.
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