Love unconditionally and offer all the best and the best. These are some of the wishes of parents when their children are born. But wanting too much for the good of children can spoil them, and instead of helping them, it hurts the education of the little ones a great deal.
Wanting to offer the best is part of responsible, wonderful parents, but you have to be able to say no. You cannot give everything the child asks for. Parents need to forbid when necessary and not to do their children's best. Does this hinder education and bring many future problems ?, comments the teacher, Simone Vicente.
First, we must impose limits. Showing children what can and cannot do is essential. Not being sorry to prohibit and make them follow the rules of the house should be daily attitudes ?, says the teacher.
It is very common to see children crying in markets and malls. Often they fall to the ground because their parents did not give or bought what they wanted. At this point, the teacher says that it is "necessary to let them cry and not pay attention to these" mornings ", because the child will realize that it is no use doing this show".
Trying to compensate for the absence of parents on a daily basis from work is also not recommended. ? With the rush of everyday life, children stay at school, with their grandparents or with trusted parents. But trying to make up for this absence with gifts is not the best way. On weekends, nothing better than hanging out with the little ones. Taking them to the movies, in parks or even spending the whole day watching DVD and offering all the affection and attention are very rewarding ways and will show the children the importance of family ?, says the teacher.
Be friends with the little ones. The teacher explains that we need to show them that parents are the best mates. • Creating a complicity with the child is essential. She needs to understand that she feels safe with her parents and that it is not necessary to resort to disobedience to achieve something. And for that, no gifts and pampering, just play with your children and always talk to them about everything ?, says Simone.
Set up a routine for your children. Children need to study, but they need to play. After school, teach them how to do their homework and then play. If possible, allow him to do some form of exercise: swimming, soccer, or any other activity he likes. Do children need to expend all the energy they have ?, suggests the teacher.
When it comes to orders, let them be very clear. Parents need to talk to their children in language they understand and in a firm tone. They have to understand that when parents say no, it's no, and nothing will change ?, says the teacher.
If they do not, respond calmly and firmly. No beating, after all, is no use going to violence. • If you are in public, don't be embarrassed by others' comments. The important thing is that they understand what they can or cannot do. Never give in to their will ?, explains the teacher.
Don't Spoil Your Kids-Parenting Advice (May 2024)
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