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April 27, 2024
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I was betrayed, now what?

THE betrayal It is one of the major reasons that lead women and especially couples to psychological offices. The causes of extramarital relationship There are many, but the main one is the crisis in marriage. This is why the wife often blames herself, either because she no longer feels attractive or because she has not given her husband the necessary attention.

The truth is that marriage (dating, engagement, friendship, etc.) is built by two people, so both must ensure the well-being of the relationship, so blaming yourself is a mistake, because we will never reach the perfection of being super wives, super moms, super daughters and so on. The person next to us should accept us in this way or seek help (therapy) so that together they can develop a better relationship.

So we can say that betrayal is no excuse, is a sign of lack of commitment to the relationship. Having a good dialogue about the desires and frustrations of the relationship is an important tip for maintaining long relationships, it will certainly not avoid extramarital affairs, but it will certainly help.

But when there was already betrayal, the case is much more complicated. Apart from the pain, there is the breakdown of trust, nothing that the person speaks from that moment will have value. Therefore, the decision whether or not to maintain the relationship should be very well thought out. Many couples decide to keep the relationship, but all the time the theme of betrayal comes up making the relationship a torture for those who betrayed and a suffering for those who were betrayed.

I have seen many women not parting so that their husbands will not go looking for "the other", as if it were a dispute over who can do more, not love one to the point of giving up a relationship for self-love. and happiness.

Restart a life alone and full of insecurities after a betrayal It's not easy either. Certainly every decision entails losses and gains, which must be compared as our dreams and desires. Therefore, in the face of betrayal the first step is to get rid of the guilt so that there is enough tranquility to reflect, talk and think about the choices, starting from the principle of self-love and the possibility of being happy as many times as we want.