12 Things You Shouldn't Worry So Much

There is no denying that women think differently than men. They worry more and are always doubting the movements that happen around them. For them, never what has been said really means that and there is always an intention, and almost never a positive one, behind those words.

For Sidneia Freitas, psychologist, creator of the Light Mind Program Light Body and founding partner of Clinic Sintropia, with modernity, women's lives have changed and today they have to deal with various demands at the same time and, with that, end up getting more worried. As a consequence they absorb the pains and delights of this contemporary transformation.

Modern women perform various functions and most of them at the same time. They are mothers, wives, housewives, workers, daughters, friends, and when they fulfill all these functions they end up burdening themselves with various concerns.

Beyond all these concerns, women still find themselves around various dilemmas that make them wonder about various subjects, from the most futile to the most reflective. With the help of the psychologist, the questions that most concern them and why they should relax more about these issues were listed:

1. What clothes do I go with?

Who has never been asked this question to throw the first stone. No matter what the place, they always ask themselves what is the best outfit, which suits the place, the occasion. The need to be in the right clothing that fits your body and suits the conditions is always a concern. And no matter how many clothes they have in the closet, they always think they need more. Is there a need to always worry about the clothes they will wear?

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2. Are my children growing up happy and healthy?

There is no way not to worry about the children. This is just one of several questions that mothers ask themselves about their children. Each day, a new concern and the older the greater the fears about their children. No wonder many mothers end up losing sleep over concerns about their children. In addition to worrying about them, they have to take care of what they will have lunch, take a snack, if the uniform is clean, if they have done the task, attend school meetings, buy the foods they like, among many other functions that concern them. daily. To worry less, women should give more responsibilities to their children and share concerns with their children's fathers.

3. Why does my hair never wake up well?

Yes, hair is one of the major concerns of women. Whether it is smooth, frizzy or wavy, it will never fit the wishes of women. And with that, they have to worry about doing flat iron, babyliss, progressive brush, moisturizing, dyeing and so many other functions that hair requires of women so that it is minimally the way they want. Women should value their natural hair more, after all, who says your hair is not beautiful the way it is naturally?

4. Why did he say that, does he want to break up?

Anything said by the contextless man is enough for women to be filled with worry and wondering what is wrong with their relationships. That's why they always like to "discuss the relationship", is a way to clarify their doubts and put all the points in the is. And most of the time, that meaningless phrase doesn't mean anything more than a meaningless phrase, causing a worry that isn't necessary.

5. My boss looks angry, what did I do wrong?

Women like to please everyone and make everyone around them happy. • The behavior of pleasing someone, most of the time, is linked to a search for recognition and approval. Women, in general, are more active in this behavior, are more internally directed from an early age to care, to provide and when this recognition does not happen can develop a feeling of frustration, dissatisfaction and disappointment ?, says the psychologist. So it is not always that your boss is angry looking to blame and it is not always that you can do something to improve his mood.

6. Someone looked me up and down, is there something wrong with my clothes?

In addition to wanting to please, women worry too much about what others think of her."Everyone would like to make a good impression, so they think about how the other sees it in various aspects: appearance, intelligence, behavior, among others," says Sydney. The problem lies in overemphasizing what others say and making all decisions according to what most call "conventional." What's the matter with someone else not liking your outfit if you think you look beautiful with it? Value your opinion more and believe that if you feel good and beautiful, everyone else will find the same thing (other than that person who always criticizes others).

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7. That suit didn't suit me, did I get fat?

No way, if the woman is not the same body as the magazine cover model, she is likely to be dissatisfied. So any clothing that doesn't fit well is reason to worry about the extra pounds (or less) and what you should or should not eat. However, some clothes do not really fit well on certain body types and there is not what a woman can do for it. To worry less, a woman should value the clothes that fit her body well and set aside trends that only look good on runway models.

8. Do I jump?

The shoes, another huge concern for women. Like clothing, it is always difficult to determine which shoe is best for a particular occasion. Can I keep on my heels all night? But what if I get taller than him? What if I turn my foot with this heel and fall and the whole party looks at me? Yes, many worries and the need to always be beautiful and perfect ends up causing many women to wear an uncomfortable shoe that has nothing to do with personal style. So worry less about your shoe and more about your comfort, this can often make all the difference in the final look.

9. Today my horoscope said to be careful, should I not go to that meeting?

Women, for the most part, are very superstitious and believe in horoscopes and the influence of stars in their lives. It's okay if your horoscope suggests that you wear green today and you accept the color suggestion of the day. What you can't do is let your life be managed by what the daily horoscope says and be influenced by the negative points they point out. Take your life lightly and naturally, without worrying about predictions, and make the stars act positively in their day.

10. Nobody liked my photo on Instagram, does anyone like me?

Five minutes went by and no one liked the picture on Instagram or Facebook, which is reason for the woman to worry in many ways. Did I look good in the photo? Don't people like me anymore? Why didn't anyone like it? Should I like the photos of others more? Social networks act as a thermometer for women, the more they enjoy, the more loved and beautiful they feel. But does a tanner change something in one's life? Women should set aside concerns about social networks and strengthen their ties in real life and, instead of wondering about their popularity in new media, live more of what they have off their computer and smartphone screens.

11. It's been over 20 minutes since I texted him and he didn't answer me. What happened?

If the person does not respond instantly, it is the reason for the woman to question herself and be sure that something is wrong. Either he doesn't want to talk to me anymore, or he doesn't like me anymore, or I said something the person didn't like. Again always blaming yourself and always worrying about something you shouldn't. The person didn't answer you because they had to join a meeting, or because they were driving, or simply because they were distracted by something. There are many more reasons that do not involve you than those that you would be the center of the problem. So stop worrying so much and have patience that as soon as the person can, he will answer you.

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12. I've been at the gym for a month, why haven't I seen any results yet?

Again the concern with appearance and the pursuit of perfection. If you are working out regularly and eating healthily in a moment your physique will show the results of your dedication. There is no miracle and nothing happens overnight. The important thing is to stay healthy and not hurry because, as the saying goes, hurry is the enemy of perfection. Take care and love your body as it is without seeking miraculous results. Go to your limit and respect your individuality. Don't worry so much about the perfect body, not always the one you think fits your biotype.

Some Cares Women Should Take Because They Worry Too Much

Having so many roles, women end up taking responsibility for many things, sometimes much more than they can handle.All of these concerns and responsibilities can lead to various problems in a woman's life. The unknowing woman is absorbing all aspects of the household routine and the administration of the school life of the children. It is very important to turn off the automatic and think a little about how life is going ?, guides Sydney.

Women should set boundaries, share and share daily tasks with other household members so that everyone feels involved and responsible for performance, achievements and results. "But for this to happen and to be established, it is necessary an active posture of the woman to persevere the progress of these activities and to avoid the feeling of guilt if the accomplishments do not happen in the perfect way as it was conceived", explains the psychologist.

If they continue to worry and feel overwhelmed by their duties, it can lead to stress and physical and emotional distress. "Over time, they can have several consequences such as depression, panic disorder, anxiety disorder, among others," warns Sydney.

So stop worrying so much, lead a lighter life, accept more, strengthen your self-esteem, and share responsibility. You are not responsible for everything that happens around you. Do everything you can in the best way possible and if it does not please everyone, patience.

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