No one starts a relationship with the end in mind, but sometimes, no matter how much it hurts, it ends. And ending a relationship, with very few exceptions, is a delicate moment in anyone's life.
Although there is no right time to overcome the end of the relationship, the clinical psychologist, Fabiana de Paula Santos, reveals that the problem is not to be sad, but how to react to the end:? Each has their time, there is no A pattern, 1 month or 1 year, all depends on how it feels ?, he says.
Check out some signs that may report that you have not yet overcome the breakup with the ex:
1. Look at ex social networks
According to the psychologist, the fact that social networks allow 24-hour monitoring if there is no limit of users themselves facilitates this type of behavior: Although we can not generalize this action by not overcoming the end of the relationship, this can be a A sign that you didn't get over your ex?
The expert also pays attention to obsessive behaviors regarding monitoring, such as taking satisfaction from some publication or? Find casually? The ex, knowing that he would be in that place: "Then one can consider that the relationship may not be so outdated", he ponders.
2. Save ex objects
This is a very delicate factor. According to Fabiana, as long as the memories do not bring pain, keeping memories of the ex can be healthy, as they recall a lived phase. ? What is not healthy is the? Deification? of this object or memory, such as not accepting to move it because it was the ex who gave ?, ponders.
3. Constantly remember your ex and miss you
Missing is normal, especially of people, moments or situations that were happy. Remembering yourself is not a sign that you did not get over your ex, as long as this memory does not make you suffer, as Fabiana explains: "Missing a gesture, an act, a moment in order to revive them, then yes?" It is a symptom of not overcoming. Constantly watching photos, objects that were part of moments with that ex, this is a very strong sign of not overcoming, after all can not live in the past ?, ponders.
4. Think there is no one like the ex
There really is no one like your ex. He is and was unique and understanding that the next partners will have distinct characteristics, which may be as good as or better, is one of the secrets to overcoming the breakup of the relationship. Fabiana describes this as a typical symptom of people who have not yet outgrown their former partners.
5. Blaming yourself and seeking justification for termination
The relationship is over and there is no point in seeking justification or blaming it for the end. Failure to understand this, persisting in the idea of one's own guilt and wanting reasons for termination may be a sign that the ex is not outdated, as the psychologist claims.
6. Look for ex characteristics in other men
Each person is different and those looking for ex characteristics in new partners are likely to suffer or become frustrated. Fabiana suggests that this is also a common behavior in people who have not reached the end of the relationship.
7. Keep pictures of the ex around the house
Fabiana is exhaustive in this case:? This is undoubtedly a symptom that you did not get over your ex. If you're over, keeping a picture is wanting to keep the person alive? and remembered all the time?
But not necessarily the photographs need to be thrown away if the woman is not yet ready to get rid of the ex's memories. The psychologist states that storing objects in a box where there is no constant access is an alternative. "One day this will be rescued and the woman can calmly decide whether to get rid of it or not," he advises.
Does breaking up a relationship hurt? It hurts. But pass. According to Fabiana, wanting to get over the end of the relationship is a very important step in overcoming this phase. Seeking new habits will also help to overcome, with friends and family being essential during this time.
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