New Year's Eve is the time to gather the whole family around the table to celebrate love and unity, but when the couple does not want to break up on Christmas Eve or give up the tradition of being with their own family, a dilemma arises which should be resolved by both: with which family to spend this important and meaningful night?
In the courtship stage, this issue is usually solved in a practical way, with the traditional exchange of gifts between the couple, always before midnight, because afterwards, each one goes home. Even after marriage, this separation loses some meaning. And everything gets worse when the children who want to choose a different destination come along. And if, to the unhappiness of all, there is a separation, the dispute becomes the presence of the children in each of the suppers.
It is noticeable that this is an issue that is part of many couples' lives and that should yield many discussions over many years, but whenever it comes up, it is time to put into practice the art and wisdom that allows the Couples and their children live in harmony. This art is nothing more than knowing how to understand each other's desires and give in whenever possible.
To get around this and prevent what was supposed to be a get-together party from turning into a big mess, there are several ways. Some couples split up and have Christmas Eve dinner with one family, and the next day have lunch with each other, alternating this order each year. Another option is to alternate the holidays spending Christmas with one family and the new year with the other.
If it's your turn this year to give in, no going to the house party at your mother-in-law's house scowling. As much as his family's company is not as good as his own family's, or the food and music are not his favorite, be nice and polite to everyone, for this will be a valid effort in the name of the affection you have. have for your mate.
Get in the mood of the party and try to have fun, but without exceeding, especially with alcoholic beverages. Be thoughtful, prepare a dessert to take to supper, help with the dishes if necessary and don't sit all night sitting on the couch with an ugly face as this will make the whole family find you unfriendly.
If living with his family is good, everything tends to be simpler and more enjoyable. And if not, this could be an excellent opportunity to cultivate a good relationship, after all, it will be many years together and the more harmonious the better for everyone.
When choosing your mother-in-law's gift, ask your partner for help and try to pick something you already know she likes. If you are unsure of the size she wears or the colors she likes, avoid giving clothes.
There is no secret, living together is knowing how to give in to numerous differences. It has always been and always will be so, but with a little goodwill and a lot of waist play, it is possible to please both parties and ensure not only one, but several fun and unforgettable holidays. Always keep that in mind and happy holidays.
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