Disagreements are normal in any relationship. When we spend a lot of time with someone (not only in love relationships, but also at work or with friends) it is only natural that we don't agree on everything all the time. This is because each person has a personality type, was created in a certain way and has a different culture and values than others.
The debates? when moderated? they may even be productive for dating or marriage to remain healthy, as they are opportunities to clarify points of contention and reach an agreement that is beneficial to both sides.
However, when the couple begins to argue too much and for reasons not always justifiable, the relationship has a great chance of being eroded with each new fight. For this reason, you may want to avoid direct confrontation, especially when you realize that one or both of your heads are hot, nervous, or too upset.
Knowing how to get out of tangent, in this case, is the way to preserve the quality of your relationship. Check out some ways to get away from recurring fights and let you not be tempted to retaliate.
Do not discount the anger accumulated by other problems in your partner.
Simple as this: Professional problem is professional problem and should be solved in your work environment, with people directly related to it. Often the factor that triggers the fight of the couple has nothing to do with the relationship but, as one is nervous for other reasons, ends up discounting the partner, who retaliates and then the discussion gets hot.
Pay attention not to be harsh without need. No one in your house is to blame for the things that went wrong in the office, so leave the troubles of your workday outside your door. The same goes for any problem that is not, in fact, linked to your relationship.
Take a deep breath when something displeases you
Assuming that the person bringing in problems from outside is not you, try not to accept the taunts or respond to rude sentences more rudely. Remember that, just like you, your partner is a human being and may have had a bad day.
Instead of returning another provocation, simply point out that the harshness of the comment or attitude displeased you, but don't make a storm in a glass of water. It is not necessary, for example, to start a? DR? just for that reason, signal your discontent and change the subject.
If he is commenting on the problems at work, do not be upset, give your opinion kindly, and if he thinks he can do so without influencing the relationship, also divide his professional anxieties.
Do not raise your voice
You are not animals, so screaming louder that he will do no good. Get a hold of yourself, and if he is the first to raise his voice, call him out with a gentle but firm "no need to scream."
Keep talking in a normal tone of voice, even if he insists on the screams. Over time he will realize that this strategy does not frighten you or make you lose your mind and will seek to control himself as well.
In a discussion, put pride aside. When the two fight, there are no winners, just stress and often the heartache that follows. Swallow your pride and run from the fights, your relationship has only to gain from the changes.
7 Things You Must Avoid When Fighting With Your Beloved (April 2024)
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