You have suddenly found the ideal man for your life. He is affectionate, romantic, has a nice chat, fills you with compliments and declarations of love. But of course almost everyone has a past that involves other relationships and that's where we come across the ghost of ex girlfriend.
The lost soul probably saw the cat's happiness and decided to turn up and call and send messages to remind him of its existence. Given this situation any girlfriend would be angry and jealous, of course, but consider don't let ex mess up your relationship.
As a current girlfriend you should not fall for her teasing. Just worry about you and your cat and do not answer or go talk to the ex, because without answers she will soon give up the onslaught. According to the couple's psychologist and therapist, Antonio Carlos Alves de Araújo, the responsibility for dealing with his ex-girlfriend rests with the man. "He has to manage this situation and if the person is causing problems, it is his role to talk and resolve conflicts with her," he explains.
This does not mean that you have to accept all situations and keep quiet. Ideally, you open up to your partner and signal that you did not like a certain attitude. But it is important to be clear, objective and avoid discussion. What your ex probably wants is to disrupt your relationship, and if, because of her, the couple starts to fight too much, the girl will reach her goal.
When the ex in question is an ex-wife and has children with her boyfriend you have to be even more careful as ending her contacts is virtually impossible. They will have issues to solve almost always. Try to act naturally when this happens, and make it clear to the man that he can talk openly with you about his problems with his children and the issues he deals with their mother. This attitude, besides demonstrating your confidence, will make your relationship with the ex is easier.
The most important tip is to trust yourself and your qualities and not let yourself get upset if your ex gets behind your boyfriend. Remember a confident woman conveys this feeling to others. If their relationship ended, was there a problem? or lack of feelings? so the chances of your partner wanting to resume this relationship is almost zero.
But be aware of man's attitudes. If he can't unlink once from the ex girlfriendIt's probably because you're somehow still involved in that relationship and not ready to start a new one? explains the therapist. In this case you need to open the game with the partner and look for a person who is really available.
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