How to get the most out of your? DR?

Just pronounce the magic words (or even just their acronym) and the disappearing spell happens immediately. The world evolves, minds evolve, but men still loathe discussing the relationship. The famous DR can keep them miles away until the threat is forgotten or replaced by chocolate.

Understanding the dynamics of DR is a fundamental principle not to fall into the usual mistakes, taking advantage of the uncomfortable situation to effectively achieve positive results. The fact is that discussing the relationship should be a way of evading the discussion itself by talking more calmly about sensitive issues in order to reach a positive agreement for both parties. The problem is that the custom has become a reason for more fights and the male learned that giving breaks to these situations is like shooting yourself in the foot.

Many couples believe that fighting is normal in any relationship. That this is a common piece? and really important? so that relationships continue to work as they should. But the truth is that when a conversation turns into a fight it is because there is some serious noise in the couple's communication. Some tips can help eliminate the practice of DR from your married life.

Avoid discussing old issues

When starting a discussion, no one wants to fight again for the usual reasons. But as the issue progresses, it is common to return to discussing past hurts. Try to control yourself because if the issue has not been resolved in other fights, it is likely to remain unsolved, serving only to move wounds that only time will heal.

Don't get in the game

Of course, in a couple conversation, there are two parties involved. You, as the representative of one of them, must do your part so that the dialogue does not become an ugly fight. If your partner provokes, do not join the game. This only increases tension and decreases the chances that the chat will be productive.

Swap places

Not easy, but try switching places with your love. Seeing the facts from his point of view can be a good way to understand the reasons that led to where you are now. Ask yourself what you would do if you were in his shoes? and make it clear that you are trying to understand it. If you still feel that you are right, carefully ask them to take their place.

Fighting is never a good way to solve problems. Dialogue, in turn, allows communication to be reestablished and solutions to be satisfactory for both sides.

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