Elegance is far from social class or how much money a person has. Everyone in life has met rich and elegant people, rich and rude people, poor elegant people and poor poor people. Money tells you what you can buy but does not limit your posture.
As Coco Chanel supposedly said, "a girl must be two things: elegant and fabulous." And by that, she probably meant that it is chic to adopt an elegant personality and feel fabulous.
And elegance is very abstract. You cannot measure it or separate it into rules like a mathematical formula. It is a set of attitudes believed to be polite, polite and kind to others around and to oneself.
Even though it is a human art and not an engineering, you can follow some secrets to bring more elegance to your behavior. Check out the following list and see what you can do right now to be a better person.
The elegant woman?
1. Treats well who provides services to her, such as waiters and salesmen. After all, she knows no one is better than anyone. Say good morning to the doorman, say thank you very much. Receiving a dish in the restaurant and looking into the eyes of the seller who serves it are elegant attitudes.
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2. Know how to talk about various subjects such as politics and travel. She reads, learns about everyday life, learns more about her hobbies and interests, and seeks to be a person who has content to talk to.
3. Understands the importance of knowing how to change a shower or tire.Or other everyday things we don't have to wait for someone else to do. But you also know that it's OK to ask for help when you can't do something. Humility is everything!
4. Do not try to go over anyone to rise in life. It does not create gossip in the workplace, it does not try to damage the image of other employees, it does not try to guess where its opinion does not fit. Respect is part of a professional and elegant posture.
5. She respects differences and always seeks to learn more about people. It is elegant to have basic concepts to respect minorities, different religions, different cultures. Start by not joking about race, sex, religion or physical aspects of people and try to cut off disrespectful comments when you realize that someone is doing it.
6. While talking to someone, look them in the eye and don't stay on the phone all the time. Show real interest in a conversation or leave politely. Chatting at the same time is not elegant. Avoid.
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7. Uses reason, is fair and not harsh in criticizing. Knowing how to criticize (and receive criticism) is an art that needs constant practice and care. Think carefully about the words you use and focus on the problem, not the person. Attitudes can be criticized, mistakes can be criticized, but try not to hurt the other with rudeness.
8. Know how to recognize something good in those or things you do not like. Not everything is 100% bad or 100% good. It is important to recognize and separate what you dislike about someone or something from the good that everything can have. You may, for example, dislike the attitudes of a particular singer, but enjoy your music nonetheless.
9. Do you practice the saying: The word is silver, but silence is gold. Knowing when to be silent and just listening and knowing when your opinion is not needed in a situation is elegant, elegant!
10. Listen and appreciate things that others like, even if they are things you do not like or agree with. For example, you may like bossa nova, but you have to respect those who enjoy other music styles, such as country music or funk. Never think that only what you like is good, respect the taste and culture of others.
11. Knows how to recognize your mistakes, tries to fix them, and is not ashamed to apologize. Recognizing one's faults and doing something about it is not humiliation, it is elegant and humble. It is something that should be practiced every day.
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12. Never speak ill of others. As hard as it is and we are often tempted to do so, it is good to avoid. Speaking badly about others shows more about your character than about theirs. If you don't like someone, walk away instead of gossiping behind your back.
13. Know how to keep control even in the most chaotic situations.When something bad happens, there is no need to scream, panic, swear and use heavy words. Keep Calm. Aggressiveness will do nothing if it resolves faster or better.
14Try not to judge people by their appearance and avoid stereotyping them. It is very important to know how to silence that inner voice. that keeps judging people mentally as we watch a person on the street or in a circle of friends. Try to delete everything that you think the person's image is giving you and try to know it for real.
15. Speaks in a medium tone, neither too low nor screaming. The elegant woman speaks in a volume that allows everyone to hear her, but also does not scream because she knows this is not necessary. It is also nice to try to improve the diction to be well understood. Knowing how to speak well is very elegant.
16. Enjoys and exercises a healthy sense of humor. Nothing worse than someone who does not laugh at anything, who does not joke and who does not have fun with life. To be nice to be around, don't be frowning.
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17. You can say no without being rude. In life we need to say a lot of nos, but that doesn't mean we have to be thick. Unless the situation itself is already rude. In that case, use your judgment and act as you see fit.
18. Practice gratitude, giving thanks whenever possible. Thank your mother for the unexpected call, your co-worker for your kindness, your postman for putting the magazine in a safe, dry place, your son's teacher for warning you of his behavior, a friend for that ride that saved you the day the cashier in the market for the change you so badly needed. Thank you more. For simple things, for not so simple things. But thank you.
19. Cultivate friendships from varied backgrounds, cultures and groups. Those who live only with people from a similar group end up not knowing what life is like outside this bubble. Meet people of different ages, races, cultures, religions and countries. People from different backgrounds aggregate rich stories and friendships into their lives, experiences no money buys.
20. Values and celebrates the achievements of other women. At a time when more than ever has been talked about feminism, practice it. Practice empathy for other women. Celebrate the achievements of your friends. Be a fan of female artists. Read books written by women. Vote for women. Do not ignore women who are entering into territories that were once dominated only by men.
You will find that it is not always easy to follow these 20 elegant behavior secrets, but it costs nothing to try. Elegance is something that the more you practice, the more natural it will be in your life. Do not hesitate to adopt these ideas.
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