Every parent interested in their children wants to participate in the upbringing and important moments of the child's life. Achieving this goal is often a constant goal and it is not uncommon for it not to be satisfactorily fulfilled, as one cannot deny the rush of today and, consequently, the lack of time devoted exclusively to children.
With a busy schedule? both parents and children, with extracurricular courses and activities? It can be difficult to create times when everyone is together and willing to pay attention to their family relationships.
Playing with children is far beyond just entertaining you. Parent-child play establishes emotional bonds and creates intimacy, so important for a child's self-confidence and acceptance. The timing of interaction is very important for all child development.
The child demonstrates most of his questions through play. The game is a direct bridge to the child universe and the proof of this is that when we propose to indulge in some game that refers to our childhood, we quickly access memories and dormant feelings. The child discovers the world through play and, when she realizes that there is a world where she no longer plays, does she feel lonely in her own world, when there is no such exchange ?, explains educator Vivian Amaral, from CIEI school in Petrópolis-RJ .
According to statistics, about 66% of parents believe they spend little time with their children, while only 35% think they spend enough time. The biggest villain in this case seems to be mostly professional issues as well as electronic activities.
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Educator Vivian Amaral analyzes that, currently, when it comes to exclusive dedication, the time devoted to children is not only insufficient but, in some cases, worrying. In addition to the obvious issue that parents are increasingly inserting outside activities into their children's routines, there is a constant lack of attention on the part of the family. Any exchange suggested by the children is immediately vetoed and the argument is that? Is life rushed? and? no time? to keep paying attention to children's ideas ?.
Finding Out If You Play Enough With Your Children
Playing with children should not be confused with providing the child with something to enjoy, whether it be an electronic game, computer, television or conventional toy. Children of all ages have the ability to play on their own, varying the time that keeps their attention fixed, and this is natural. But active family participation will always be beneficial and productive.
• Family interaction through play demonstrates to the child that you are willing to know or recognize their world. Thus one learns empathy, trust, humanity, etc. The relationship is no longer one-sided, where only the child needs to know the things we think are necessary and she also shows us her world.
Children may have difficulty understanding and organizing thoughts until they can verbalize. Realizing this withdrawal may not be easy because the child's reaction will not necessarily be exactly directed at the subject. Vivian warns that children may end up showing frustration in an unclear way:
• They may begin to lose interest in routine activities and cry to do things they normally did. Attention is needed at this time, as parents tend to think that something new has happened and may understand that it was outside the family environment. If the child cannot spend time doing things with the family that he or she really would like, chosen by them and that matter to them, naturally they tend not to do the activities suggested by the family? This is the way to demonstrate your need.
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In the case of the largest, usually this charge comes in the form of aggressiveness. Children begin to respond harshly and assault their families with subtle attitudes, such as emphasizing how ideally the family of others is and doing the opposite of things taken as a reference for the family?
How to approach your child and play with him
Lack of time can be a hindrance, but it is important to note that children's creativity provides all alternatives to this problem. For the child, anything can be joking. Don't wait for that long weekend to produce some extraordinary joke, it may cause you to procrastinate something that may never be accomplished. Try to enjoy every propitious moment.
Enjoy going to school, exploring the path, pretending to be astronauts boarding a ship, or adventurers walking through an enchanted valley. Turn the kitchen into a portal of magic where the blend of ingredients does amazing things. Turn the bath into a sea storm or pirate adventure. Show how you used to play and find out how your child likes it. Will you find more affinities than you think?
Testimonials: What Parents Say About It
“When Arthur was six months old, I went back to work full time and he would babysit and then go to day care. I only saw him on weekends. When I realized that he was asking for his father's presence more than mine, I realized it was time for change. I quit my job and started working at home. I became a present mother and preferred to decrease the family income to be able to provide this. I have been able to participate in almost anything with him for years. I started my own home based business so I can work with him next door. When I'm with him, we do everything! We play, we talk a lot, we are very friends and confidants, we love to make a mess, invent, create, sing together, draw? .I find the time spent together very good !? ? Ana Hayss, actress, mother of 6 year old Arthur.
“At this age he is not much interested in activities other than video games and computers. I am very frustrated that I have not had more opportunities to play ball, play pike and ride a bicycle. Sometimes I try to play video games with him, but I don't have the patience to stay long either. It's hard to get it off the screen and I recognize that I have a good deal of blame for not encouraging more other activities? ? Evandro, industrial climber, Cauê's father, 12 years old.
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I currently spend a lot of time with my child because I have a job that is most of the time on the internet. Every day we eat our meals together and he goes to school in the afternoon. There have been times when he missed having more time for him. This phase of life is one that I thank so much for the opportunity to be able to dedicate myself and be present in my son's life. We usually go to the waterfall, watch movies and play ?? ? Fernanda, historian, mother of 8-year-old Otto.
Fun ideas to play with your kids
Looking for inspiration to play with your kids and ensure quality time and fun with them? Here are the following separate ideas for children in each age group:
0 to 1 year
- Listen and sing songs
- Roller on the floor
- Play with water, bucket or pool (always supervised)
- Read and play: Read stories for your child and play the characters
- To roll
2-3 years
- To draw
- Hide and seek
- Ring Pass
- To dance
- Modeling clay
From 4 to 6 years
- A-do-le-ta
- Hopscotch
- Hula hoop
- Statue
- mimicry
Over 7 years
- Blind goat
- Juggling
- Treasure hunt
- Kite
- Ball games: football, burn, volleyball.
There are countless possibilities for easy and fun games that provide interaction between parents and children, strengthening intimate bonds. With or without space, rain or shine, and with a little organization, it is possible to spend pleasant moments with your children, which will be stored in memory.
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