One day you are too tired for sex. In the other you simply are not in the mood. And weeks go by and you didn't look for your partner and you dodged him when he looked for you. Suddenly you noticed that you no longer feel like having sex. And now? Is it just a phase or a serious problem? It may be that you are inhibiting sexual desire, which according to a survey by the Sexuality Project of the Hospital das Clinicas (Prosex / USP) conducted in 2004, was the complaint of about 8.2% of women interviewed.
Sex psychotherapist Marcelo Toniette explains that? Inhibition of sexual desire is related to a person's poor availability or lack of fantasy or involvement in sexual activity. The most common symptom is the lack of motivation for sex and any situation related to it.
The sexual psychotherapist of the Paulista Institute of Sexuality (Inpasex), Oswaldo M. Rodrigues explains that "sexual desire is a mechanism with biological basis, but with modifications and directions produced by the social world and interpersonal or intersubjective interaction." This means that even being a biological process, social factors can directly interfere with this process. And when a person goes through a troubled phase like stress, depression, loss of someone, relationship crisis or some illness, these factors can trigger the inhibition of sexual desire.
Desire is basically associated with a sense of well-being, which comprises the balance between psychosocial and physical aspects. If this feeling is compromised, is it likely that sexual desire will be impaired? Exemplifies Toniette. The disorder may also be related to a traumatic experience, such as in cases of sexual abuse. People who have received a very strict upbringing, where sex was a repressed subject, can also create a negative expectation about sexual involvement and have difficulty establishing desire.
But it is important to be aware of your own needs and expectations. It is not because others say they desire desire all the time or have more sex that you need to suspect your lack of desire for sex. It is important to consider that each person has a uniqueness and does not always match what is generally expected. But if this difficulty is causing discomfort, anxiety or distress or even harming interpersonal relationships, is it time to seek professional help ?, says Toniette. The specialist also points out that usually the patient only seeks help when he is motivated by the partner and hardly does it on his own.
Treatment for inhibiting sexual desire is based on psychotherapy. • Therapy is focused on sexuality, based on theoretical and technical cognitive behavioral psychology. It is usually a longer treatment than other sexual dysfunctions, but in a few months the problem can be overcome ?, explains Rodrigues. Sexual psychotherapy aims to help the patient realize their sensitivity; assist relationship difficulties, both in the affective and sexual aspects, and develop rewarding and pleasure-related sensory references.
It is important to seek help not to generate problems such as difficulty in relating, lack of intimacy or the breakup of a relationship. "Over time, the person no longer perceives his sexuality as a possibility of pleasure and, as a result, this aspect of his life loses meaning", concludes Toniette.
How To Overcome Sexual Inhibition (April 2024)
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