Many people remember their childhood with joy and say they miss the time when they had no responsibilities and could be free, but the truth is that being a child is not that simple, because there are many challenges faced by the little ones to grow and grow. fit into society.
During childhood most children today lead an adult-like life, extremely strict about the routines being implicitly charged by parents who create expectations about what they will be in the future.
Parents should ask themselves if these expectations are appropriate for the age and reality of their children. Often they may be dreaming of goals that are too far away from children, which can lead to mutual frustrations and disappointments. When this happens, parents feel flawed and guilty, and children pressured, unable, and even unloved. says Flavia Ianzini Carnielli, psychotherapist and partner at the M&C Psychological Clinic.
Children want to exercise their nature with freedom to play, to relate to other people, to explore the world in complete freedom and without scripts, but this is undermined by social impositions.
On the other hand, the rigidity of routine and anticipated expectations are accompanied by an overprotection of parents facing many conflicts preventing their children from finding solutions to problematic situations in their lives, such as discussions with peers or teachers.
But children's challenges begin long before children go to school, when they are still babies, and endure throughout their childhood.
Children's evolutionary challenges
- World perception: learn to be interested in communicating with him, understand when they speak his name, understand the meaning of the word? No? and notice when they hide an object;
- Learning to walk: learning to sit on your own and to lean forward to reach things, to lean on your arms, and to crawl and get started by leaning on objects;
- Understand the absence of parents: realize that parents and she are distinct beings and become afraid of being away;
- Speak the first words: learn to speak from what you hear in conversations, imitate sounds and practice;
- Weaning: Learn to consume other foods and drink drinks in a cup;
- Abandoning diapers: Developing physiologically and having the emotional maturity to learn to go to the bathroom and manage the will;
- Eating by yourself: learning how to use cutlery and improving your own eating movements;
- Understand the notion of time: understand the count of hours, days of the week, months and years;
- Accept rules: Realize that some things do not work without standards and understand why they are needed.
- Valuing money: understanding the value of banknotes and coins, the differences between expensive and cheap and the economic reality of the family;
- Assume you told a lie: Understand and learn to recognize when something you are saying is not true;
- Take care of your own things: learn to do small tasks, developing a sense of individual and collective responsibility.
For the child to develop fully in the aspects mentioned above, the child must rely on the support of parents, who are obliged to provide a good structure through good stimuli, attention and physical and emotional care.
Not anticipating expectations and avoiding overprotection is fundamental to children's evolution, because by facing the most simple? The challenge is that children become capable not only of independence from their activities in society, but also in their psychological aspects.
We need to teach the next generation of children from day one that they are responsible for their lives. The greatest gift of mankind, and also its greatest misfortune, is that we have free will. We can make our choices based on love or fear. warned Elizabeth Kubler-Ross, a renowned Swiss psychiatrist who died in 2004.
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