At the age of 20, badly or well, our sex life is still young. As much as we believe we already know everything (which may even be possible), the truth is that the more maturity and experience, the more we know how to deal with sex and its mysteries.
And how many mysteries! To know about sex requires a lot of attitude and courage, because the subject is still a big taboo, especially for women and especially for girls. We often feel shy and insecure about talking openly about sex with our family, friends and even doctors. But to really know everything about this subject one has to ask, listen to the opinions of others and of course experiment.
Want tips that really work? We invite Relationship Coach Suzana Leal to name some important points from this phase of your sex life that can help you be more secure and prepared for all the surprises that sex will still bring you. Here are the 20 things you should know about sex at age 20:
1. You have a right to pleasure
Sex is made for both, no matter what the men or their grandmother say. Suzana Leal points out the importance of knowing and demanding that sex be an exchange of desires and satisfactions, not a one-way way of pleasing one.
2. You have the ability to feel great pleasure.
Your body is ready for pleasure, you know that? For this, in addition to your erogenous points, you have the amazing clitoris, which exists exclusively for your pleasure and allows multiple orgasms. It's just you know him best to check out all he can give you.
3. Sex is just another part of the relationship.
If you have lost your virginity to the average Brazilian age, at age 20 you will only be about 5 that you are sexually active. In a time of so many discoveries about this activity (and one that always has more to learn about), be careful not to value sex in a relationship that much. Sex is important, but it is not what drives a safe and lasting relationship.
4. Have a good oral sex
Oral sex is general preference, everyone likes it. Oral sex is not a gift, nor an obligation. Learn to enjoy and welcome it. If you want some ringtones, look here.
5. Know how to have fun with sex
The strain of early sex can make us regularly focus on pleasing our partner. Unfortunately this way, no one will really have fun because you can't offer what you don't have. Free yourself to enjoy sex as a fun and enjoyable activity and enjoy feeling all it can give you.
6. Reaching orgasm with penetration
It is now known that every orgasm depends on the clitoris, but as it is much larger than we can see, and involves opening the vulva, orgasm by penetration is possible. The best tip is self awareness and concentration. In the act of sex, empty your mind of other matters and focus your attention on your sensations.
7. Orgasm with oral sex
Which is not at all difficult to achieve if the boy wants to please. More than half of women say they only reach orgasm with oral sex.
8. Know how to masturbate
Masturbation is a risk-free activity and should not contain any taboo. Knowing how to touch yourself will make it easier for you to achieve pleasure, know your preferences and can tell them to your partner.
9. Body self-awareness
Never be ashamed to know your own body. If there is anything about your body and sexuality that you do not yet fully understand, it is past time to inform and understand. Look in the mirror, touch yourself and don't be shy about knowing the anatomy of your body.
10. Go to the motel
Fun and exciting besides being a big curiosity! Go to the motel with your partner or "stay", either by arrangement or by surprise. But it's only cool even if you get rid of the prejudices and are in the mood to do what is done in motels: sex.
11. Go to the gynecologist
Before and after the onset of sex life, it is very important that you consult a gynecologist regularly. Take the time to fearlessly answer all your questions about sex, disease, condoms, body changes?
12. Know how to say no
Insecurity or the desire to make a good sexual impression can lead you to give in to someone else's wishes that you don't like. Do not devalue yourself under pressure from your partner. “No succumbing to his desires that make you feel bad or disgust you for fear of not being loved or accepted,” adds Relationship Coach Suzana Leal.
13. Choosing Your Favorite Contraceptive Method
This is a serious matter.Don't make the mistake of thinking that things only happen to others. It is very important that you choose the method you want to adopt and know how to use it correctly. Condoms should be an almost? Obligatory? and the other method for matching is up to you to choose. In addition to diseases that can bring you a lot of headache, the need for this choice also protects you against an unexpected pregnancy.
14. Interrupted coitus is bored
It is not because your friend always uses this tactic and it works, or because your partner swears he knows how to control himself, that withdrawal can be indicated as safe. In fact, it is probably the biggest cause of unwanted pregnancy. Nothing guarantees you that something will not go wrong, and anyway, that way you will not be prevented from sexually transmitted diseases.
15. Not being ashamed to talk openly about sex
With friends, boyfriend, family? Sex is an activity that everyone does and a subject that interests everyone as well. It may be very good to talk about sex and desires with other people. You will feel safer and less isolated in your doubts.
16. What sex with love is better
Suzana Leal thinks it is important to be aware that sex is different and usually better with a steady partner. When there is sexual attraction in addition to love, the pleasure is unlimited. Plus, with the steady partner you develop more intimacy and both can learn what pleases them, which will make sex even better.
17. What sex without love can be really cool
If what you feel is just sexual attraction, no problem. Forget the fears and enjoy yourself. Sex does not necessarily have to be tied to long relationships or demands. If you are willing to have an uncommitted fuck and think you can do it without getting hurt, go deep.
18. In sex nothing is forbidden
If both are feeling respected and happy, anything goes. Between four walls, whatever the two want is released. There are no rules for pleasurable sex. Get rid of your traditional moorings and have fun.
19. Give it a try
As long as you respect your physical and emotional limits, be protected and truly willing, experience all that sex can give you. Whether with a steady partner or diverse partners, you have the right to experience and feel whatever you feel like.
20. You are ready!
Life is made of living and experiences. You don't have to know everything about sex or being queen of the bed to be a sexually interesting person. Learn to respect your limits and value your qualities and nothing will stop you from having a satisfying sex life.
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