What to do with my ex's gifts?

You have ended a relationship and now you do not know what to do with the memories left by your ex. Whether letters or photographs, it is always unpleasant to have to decide how to proceed with the remnants left by the late relationship. Even more annoying is the indecision to dispose or not of the gifts given by the once great love.

After all, should we keep these things or pass them on to others? Do not despair, some of our readers gave their statements for and against the habit of keeping gifts. Maybe by reading their opinions, you can better decide what to do with them.

? Throw it all away?

There are those who cannot live with the memories left by the ex, even if they are only given objects. If this is your case, know that you are not alone.

Juliana, 27, claims not to keep anything to tell the story. "I don't like looking at the gifts my ex-boyfriends gave me, because I just remember relationships," she says.

If relationships have been very troubled, it may even be difficult and even painful to keep these objects in storage. In such cases, it is even more appropriate to dispose of them.

Ana Claudia, 24, also keeps nothing, but prefers to donate the old gifts. “The only thing I have in store is a shirt, and that's because it was the mother of an ex who chose it. I saved it because I was sorry to get rid of it, but the rest I donated ?.

Ana still claims to have given a new function to some gifts:? I once got a gift basket; after the breakup ended, I dismantled the basket and made her a flat iron and hair dryer holder? she explains, "I think these things depend a lot on the kind of relationship you had with the person, because of some ex could not keep anything, since it hurt me to look at gifts ?.

? I keep everything with me?

The other extreme is those who prefer to keep everything, without any remorse or unpleasant feeling about it. “To be honest, I have all the gifts I got, including a heart pillow. I don't get rid of them because I don't think it's necessary? ”Says Tayara, 24. About possible problems with her current boyfriend, she states that there is no reason to fight, I always make it clear that it has nothing to do with it because I clung to the object, not to the one who gave the object; for me it's just a regular pillow ?.

The class that argues that gifts should not be passed on is quite emphatic in explaining that these objects no longer mean anything to them, just that: objects.

Gabriele, 26, has the same opinion about it, "Most of the time I keep it, but I don't usually remember who gave it to me," she says. However, for Gabriele, this untying of the person specifically is fundamental. If she associates the gift with the person who gave it or the relationship she had with that person, she thinks it's best to get rid of it. "If the gift brings me a bad memory, I end up going to someone else," he says.

Do you usually keep your ex-boyfriend's gifts or prefer not to live with them when the relationship ends?

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