Generally, as children, people always learn to be honest with each other. Express your opinion, speak your mind and never say something "behind your back".
However, there are situations in life where telling the truth can make things more complicated; ranging from personal embarrassment to the annoyance of the listener. And the solution is not to lie, but not to say, to omit.
Valentine couples are a good example of this. Despite all the love, trust and complicity, some silly truths can bring unnecessary fights to the couple, so sometimes it's best to leave the situation as it is, omitting some of its details.
The list below includes some of these daily omissions that every woman has ever thought or will think about. Learn how to handle each situation:
1. That your ex boyfriend was better in bed
Much of the pleasure at the time of sex is linked to the chemistry between the couple. Sometimes, it happens that a couple fit more than the other for issues such as chemistry and intimacy, without much can be done about it. Put yourself in his shoes: It would be unpleasant to know that you are part of this other, less chemical, especially if the first one is with his ex. So better leave this subject saved.
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If you want to solve the problem, why not innovate? Affective coach Patricia Camargo suggests: Bring creativity to bed: new positions, tastes, smells, sounds, sexier lingerie, etc. This would be a way of avoiding the subject that the other was better in bed, but at the same time a light way of bringing the information that the sex that is made today can be improved.
2. That you think your ex were prettier
It's normal to remember details that made your ex-boyfriend irresistible. If the memory persists, remember: if you are no longer with him it must be for a reason. “He could be prettier but more boring, antisocial, that never made you laugh, for example. And the current may be less physically attractive, but much more sociable, lighter, which always puts a smile on your face ?, indicates the professional.
3. Your happy moments with your ex boyfriends
You go to a restaurant and you remember that you have been to the place before, accompanied by your ex. Sometimes telling him is automatic, but be aware that there may be consequences. It's not worth spoiling dinner, right? However, Patricia believes that it is possible to rely on little way. "You can do everything you like with the new partner without necessarily commenting on what you did with the previous partner, but feel free to comment that their company in the same places is much better," he suggests.
4. Talk about intimacy with other men
Here it is worth putting yourself in his place again. You may remember hot times with other men who have gone through your life, but you better keep them with you. That's because it's not going to be nice for him to imagine that the intimacy you have today was once or nearly the same with another man.
Also, it is a lack of respect for the privacy of the other. "If you talk to him about the intimacies he had with his previous partner, it's very natural for him to think that if in the future you are no longer together, you'll be commenting about the intimacies with him for everyone," bet the coach.
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5. That you hate your mother-in-law (or someone in his family)
This, in a way, is common in relationships. However, getting into family merit is always complicated. He will tend to defend the family, and worse, may criticize his as well. Karma with in-laws is old, but he better imagine that his mother is a wonderful mother-in-law with you, at least until he realizes otherwise.
Also, it is likely that the problem is not in you, but in them. Mother-in-law may not like girlfriends because they are jealous of their children, for example. According to Patricia, "when you change the perception that the problem of the other is internal to him and not with you, the relationship becomes much lighter."
6. That he has a very hot friend who gives you desire
Evaluate this desire. You would not want to imagine that your boyfriend has a desire for a friend of yours, so reflect on the situation and make a decision as repressing your desire can make things worse. “In this case, I suggest pondering the desire. Whether it's a very strong thing or just passing and doesn't happen every time you meet this friend. If it keeps happening, better break up before it's too late?
7. That your mother warned you that he would be like this (about his faults)
Mothers have a knack for guessing which boyfriend really likes you and which one doesn't. They feel responsible for their daughters and will always be watching to see if their boyfriend is good enough for them. However, this subject deserves to be between mother and daughter not to cause disturbances in the relationship. Think his mother can say the same about you! And Patricia completes: • Keep in mind that even mothers can make mistakes and make a bad judgment. What time will tell ?.
8. Does your family judge you or not think it is good enough for you?
It is possible that your family thinks no one will be good enough for you, however much you declare every quality of it. This topic should be discussed at home, between you and your family, not between you and him. If you are with him, it is because you think he deserves to be by your side, so it may be your role to show this to your family. According to the professional, "It is best to try to be neutral, put yourself in the shoes of family members to see the way they are seeing, and then draw their own conclusions about it."
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9. That you hate that he plays soccer or video games with friends
Men have hobbies and personal programs. And as we have, we can't complain, even if you prefer him at the movies with you instead of the football field with friends. Know how to balance and only complain if you are being wronged. Think about it: Why do you hate that he plays soccer or video games with friends? What is behind this? If it is only because he will not be with you, it is very selfish of you. Get over it and move on, the coach recommends.
10. That you ever wanted to be with other men
"Wanting to be with other men is normal, as long as it is not something exaggerated and desperate," says Patricia. You know the love you have for your boyfriend, but it has happened to you to go to the club and feel like being with another man. It would be just a kiss, nothing more, but it wouldn't be fair to him anyway. He better not know that, so as not to be insecure every time you go out alone.
The exercise of putting yourself in the other's shoes and imagining that he may also want to be with other women is very good to know that a relationship should be watered and cultivated like a garden, so the will soon passes and you recognize that your relationship with your partner is much bigger and more important than a passing wish?
11. That you want to travel, but without it
Follow Patricia's question: “It's all about the purpose of the trip: will you travel without it to miss your friends or will you travel with your single friends who are in for fun and you're the only one in one? serious relationship??
Traveling with her boyfriend is good, but alone too. Travelers have the opportunity to know each other better, meditate and enjoy, and this independence is good even for self-esteem. However, it would be boring to know that your boyfriend wants to travel and has not invited you to join him. So unless you combine mutual independence, it is best to leave the single trips.
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Also, it's worth remembering that even traveling with it, you always get a moment of your own. Is it much more elegant to say that you want to walk the beach alone while he is in the hotel bar reading a newspaper than to say you want to take a whole trip without him?
12. That your friend cheated on her boyfriend
For mother and boyfriend, it is never good to tell the adventures of friends. This is because they have a good memory and will judge it for the rest of their lives. And if she cheated on her boyfriend, your boyfriend will conclude that you will do the same if they go out together, as absurd as that sounds.
Also, think about the trust placed in you and do not spread an intimacy that is not yours. "Just as you would not want your friend to comment with her boyfriend about things that happen to you," points out the professional.
13. What are you? his ex's life on social networks
Nowadays everyone is on social networks posting photos, videos and news about life. Including your boyfriend's ex. Women know that it is natural to want to know what she looks like, what she is doing, and what she does, but he need not know, because he may not understand her need. And it is not a crime, because it is very likely that she will smash your life too! "Xerete whatever you want, but keep what you find for yourself," Camargo recommends.
14. That a new employee at your job is a cat
Patricia reveals:? At work, in the building where we live, in college? We will always meet cats along the way. And they are a sight for sore eyes, why not enjoy them? But keep the comments to yourself?
If your boyfriend is jealous, even worse.You spend a lot of time at work and it can bring a lot of insecurity to it. And an insecure relationship causes a lot of problems. Comment with the friend of the next stall and leave the matter behind.
6 Things you should never tell a man (April 2024)
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