Dating is the hottest phase of the relationship, where everything is new and passion reigns. When the wedding arrives the weather is also great. In their eagerness to share the same house, they both live in wonders. But over time, things can get cold. Routine, conflict and lack of dialogue start to make you uncomfortable, and even hot times can become less and less frequent.
To circumvent the pitfalls of marriage, married therapist Lidia Rosenberg Aratangy, author of The Ring You Give Me? Divan Wedding (Editorial Spring) lists some important tips for keeping your marriage out of crisis.
1 ? State your wishes
No waiting for your husband to guess what you want. Say clearly what you think. That way you can avoid frustrations.
2 ? Respect the crazes
Instead of arguing about his customs, try to understand, get used to, and accept. After all, no one is always right and you will not be able to change it.
3? Respect limits
Set and clarify your sentimental and physical limits. Don't promise more than you can and be honest.
4? Enjoy the company
Value the presence of your beloved. Do not trivialize the moments you spend together. Enjoy even those hours when you are side by side, distracted and connect with it. "Put your hand on your leg or just talk about what they are doing," says the therapist.
5? Cultivate friendships
The relationship also needs the presence of friends. Living with them makes each one have their space.
6? Control anger
Nothing worse than, in a fight, talking too much. So don't let grudge speak up. And if you need to, step back and leave the conversation for later, when both have a cool head.
7? Take an interest in your wishes
More than husband and wife, you must be partners. Talk about their wishes, dreams and plans. This attitude will make them always connected.
8? Solitude periods
Sometimes one has to have a moment alone. In addition to natural, it is necessary. Even if it does not occur simultaneously.
9? Leave the past behind
If something that happened a while ago hurt you, don't remember it. If you have already talked about it and you have decided to accept your beloved's apologies, there is no point in reminding you. It only causes pain to both of them.
10? Negotiate
Dispute over some subject is not the best way out. How about finding a third option that pleases you both? Discuss the issues you disagree with. This way no one goes out losing or upset.
7 Tips For Saving Your Marriage (Don't Ignore This Crucial Advice!) (April 2024)
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