We have already talked about how the terms are sore and it takes some time for the pain to pass and the wound to heal. We feel terrible and it is practically impossible to imagine a new beginning. These are phases and we need to go through them.
As that little black cloud fades away we can imagine a future, a fresh start and perhaps a new love.
I once heard from a person we only love once, I found his point of interest a bit corny for the present day. The level of intensity we experience first love is unquestionable, especially since we set expectations on something never experienced. Usually it arises in adolescence where there is no fear and is believed in immortality.
I often say in the office that love has the ability to be recycled as often as needed. Even with a new person with different habits, the essence of love will be there and that does not change, so comparisons in the early stages of a relationship are unhealthy.
It is quite common to hear from people how hard they are? love disappointments and how difficult it is to start a new relationship.
My role as a psychologist is not to? Flower? a situation, but to show the facts, and in this case unfortunately we have no way of predicting the future, let alone if we will suffer again.
Clearly we can reduce the risk of this happening especially if we lessen our anxiety about starting a new relationship without looking at each other, that is, we project our expectations and dreams and don't even question if the other person wants the same. How many times do we hear (and think) the phrase, and then I change his way? or "He doesn't want to marry because he hasn't fallen in love with me yet." Sometimes we want so much? Plug a hole? that we don't even realize how we are doing it.
Fresh starts should happen not to relieve pre-existing pain but to continue life and dreams together.
So if we have no guarantees of anything, why try again?
First we need to remember that no one needs anyone to be happy and the option of having a relationship must be based on one's dreams and goals, such as building a family or as my grandmother used to say? given?
Most importantly, no dream should be placed in the drawer and forgotten no matter how difficult or painful it may seem. We must not forget that we are able to restart as often as necessary and this is priceless.
Be happy.
WE CAN MAKE IT HAPPEN AGAIN - (Lyrics) (April 2024)
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