Some things that wives say sometimes escape? At the time of the nervous and during discussions they may sound very rude and stay in your husband's memory forever. So, to avoid being rude and encouraging him to be soft with words as well, follow our tips and exclude these phrases from the couple's dialogue.
"Take care of the children, but don't do this, don't do that?"
If you have left this responsibility to him, trust your husband's ability. Do not criticize him even before he does what has been done to him. It is important, yes, to give some guidelines, but beware of the way you will tell it. If you start the dialogue already believing that he can't do anything, it may not end very positively.
Let it go! I do it myself?
This kind of phrase can make your husband feel worthless. Another bad consequence of this is that it can even let you do everything. So if he is trying something, even if he is failing a little and having a hard time, let him do it. Avoid removing the iron from his hand and ironing yourself. Let him learn, even if it costs a few burnt or wrinkled shirts.
? You never / always do this !?
Affirming that he always does something or never does something already gives the impression that he is unchanging and that his attitudes will always be the same. Be a little less harsh and allow your husband to develop some different attitudes. If you speak that phrase, it can end up doing the same thing over and over again. He won't even try hard to change, after all, you carved the stone that he will always be like this.
"Well my mother told me that you would be like this."
This phrase, in addition to ruining the relationship of mother-in-law and son-in-law, can also make room for him to say the same. It is normal for mothers to want to protect their daughters from things the future husband will do, but he does not need to know that. These statements offend and mark for a long time. Therefore, avoid this sentence as much as possible (even if it is true).
"When are you going to get another job, huh?"
This kind of pressure will certainly not bring your husband closer to you and bring the expected job back faster. Your husband is probably already pushing himself to get the job and doesn't need you to make him even more stressed. So be an understanding companion and don't cover the results so much.
"But you're just like your father." ?
Comparing your partner to someone in his family in a derogatory way is not cool. Imagine if he told you that, how would he feel? If you don't want to be compared this way to the people in your family, don't make those comparisons either.
"I do / pay everything in this house!"
If you are in this relationship to count every penny you spend and every effort you make later to play in your spouse's face, you may want to reevaluate your concepts. This is not how you will earn his admiration and respect for everything you do for your home and family.
ÜI warned you, but you never hear me. ?
Don't want to look like his mother teaching her son what he can and can't. Instead of criticizing something he did and went wrong, support your husband and be understanding. That way, it's easier to get him to listen to you the next time you give advice on something he wants to do.
ÜYour mother who left you like that. ?
One of the things that sounds very bad to any man's ears is to say that his mother "spoiled" him. This type of statement is very discouraging and even offensive. Avoid complaining the way it was created, after all you were not there to know why things happened the way they did. Respect the limits and forgive minor defects that you believe he has acquired because of his education.
"It looks like this outfit is really beautiful." ?
If you asked him if the outfit looked good on you and he said yes, don't start contesting. The same goes for questions like "I got fat with this outfit". If your husband said the look was cool, thank him and feel good about that outfit. It's not nice to be desperately wondering if you're really pretty.
Now just avoid these phrases that can do a great deal of damage in a few seconds and have a more pleasant coexistence with your partner. It is possible that they may sometimes escape in the middle of a fight, but it does not cost much to make an effort to be more delicate with words. So you encourage him to be gentle too when saying something about you. Resulting in a more harmonious, peaceful and offense free relationship.
10 Things Women Should NEVER Say to a Man (May 2024)
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