When a love relationship works in your "test" period ? we know from dating - nothing more natural than thinking about taking commitment to deeper levels. Marriage, or the simple decision to share the same roof, seems to be a celebration of a successful union, and so would be a logical consequence for a loving couple. But it is necessary to consider several factors before setting the date and going to the altar.
1 ? Are our long-term goals similar or moving in opposite directions?
For a marriage to work, the couple must have life goals in tune. This is because decisions such as living in one city or another, investing in a business X, or even having or not having children need to be taken together and will be the subject of constant misunderstanding if each one wants something.
2 ? How do we relate when we are alone?
Some relationships tend to be more dynamic when the couple is in a social context, with friends or family, and cease to function when partners are alone. Notice if you keep getting along when there's no one else around; If the answer is no, it might be better to rethink the idea of marriage, because it assumes that you will spend a lot of time alone.
3? Do we usually work in teams?
In addition to common goals and a cool relationship, partners need to cultivate the habit of working together on a daily basis. This means that one needs to help each other with various tasks, whether they are domestic or financial, rather than waiting for the other to do everything on their own. In other words, it is critical that both play for the same team.
5? Are we financially in tune?
There are two possible situations here: either the couple wants a life that is free of financial commitments, such as home and car financing, or the couple wants those commitments. As long as you both want the same thing, that's fine. The problem is when one wants to buy a home while the other prefers to spend on that vacation trip. In addition to being able to support themselves, the couple must want to invest money in the same things.
6? Are quarrels and arguments common?
Once the couple share the same house, sleep and wake up together, it is a natural tendency for discussions to increase in frequency. So if you already fight a lot living apart, there is a great chance that living together will become difficult after marriage. Rethink your kind of relationship before saying yes.
7? How do we relate to each other's families?
Engaging with your partner's family is critical since she will also be your family after marriage. Likewise, having a nice relationship with your family greatly helps to reduce the risk of unnecessary misunderstandings.
8? Are we aware of the waivers that need to be made for marriage to work?
A life of two requires that both sides give in at some point, and that both sides understand that one must renounce the privileges of singleness for the well-being of marriage.
9? Do we know and respect each other's religious choice? Will this be a problem when raising our children, for example?
It may not seem so, but the affinity of religious beliefs may be a helping hand for the couple to understand each other. When children arrive, for example, partners will want to raise them according to some doctrine, and if they do not agree on how it will work, they may have problems.
10? Do we have more than just love?
It may sound pessimistic, but it is no more than the truth: love is not enough to sustain a lasting marriage. There needs to be friendship, trust and complicity between the partners, which are solid feelings on which to build a life together.
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