The keyword about sex should always be pleasure, and it's no use being pleasurable on one side, right? It is important to talk, set boundaries and guide your partner so that both of you can make the most of your moments of intimacy.
Oral sex is part of every couple's life, so here are 10 things your partner needs to know to make this practice even more enjoyable? for him and for you.
1. He needs to give you a signal (when will he come)
If you have already talked about it and you see no problem, that's fine, but if he cums while you're having oral sex on him without warning you, it will be disrespectful. Can you combine a signal? be it verbal or a pat on the bed? for when it's almost there, so you can decide how you want to end it.
2. He needs to value his effort and his time.
It is not good to spend a lot of time down there. Of course, no one has an orgasm in thirty seconds, but it's worth keeping an eye on the clock, because after a while, the whole thing starts to stop being fun.
3. He needs to return the favor
It's the polite thing to do! Maybe he (or even you) doesn't like oral sex that much, but he needs to at least be willing to return the favor. After all, he should not expect from you something he is unwilling to offer you.
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4. He needs to have some idea what he's doing.
You don't want him to just give you a saliva bath, do you? If necessary, give instructions, suggestions and tips for your partner to perform better in oral sex. Does he need to have a goal? give you pleasure? and any idea what you're doing.
5. He should use his hands more
The more pleasure he can give you, the better. Hands are always welcome to make oral sex even tastier, so have your partner incorporate them if and when possible, as in some positions it is a little harder to use them.
6. He doesn't have to mess with your hair that much
Besides being a distraction, messing with your hair a lot can make you all embarrassed, looking like a rat's nest. It's good to know your partner is enjoying what you are doing, but doesn't he have to mess your hair that much? There are other ways to communicate this.
7. Too much eye contact may not be so cool
Exchanging glances during sex can be very interesting, but you need attention, as too much eye contact can be scary! He should focus on your vagina, not your eyes, while having oral sex on you.
8. Just because you had an orgasm doesn't mean it's over
Does he need to know about a super-special thing called multiple orgasms? that is, women can have multiple orgasms in the same sexual relationship. That means understanding that: It's not just because you had a single orgasm that you're satisfied.
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9. No problem kissing after oral sex
Some people find it normal, other people find it disgusting, but in fact, it's okay to kiss after the oral. Talk about it with your partner and try not to mind that little detail.
10. It's still important to have safe sex
He needs to respect you, so if you prefer to have oral sex with a condom, it shouldn't even come into discussion. Practicing safe sex goes for all forms of sex, not only when there is penetration!
Remember: the key to tastier sex is communication! Don't be afraid to share your desires with your partner and help him or her pleasure you. It is with time and practice that you will discover the things you like or dislike about oral sex.
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