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April 9, 2024
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Dysfunctional Marriage

The famous phrase: 'till death do you part.' has an overestimated value, even today. We have heard several stories about marriages, where there is no longer compatibility between the couple, but something holds them in this dysfunctional union.

In our culture, we choose a partner to share our lives, to form a family, and when we say yes, we usually do so with the desire to grow old together. There is a whole imagination that surrounds people, where dream-filled castles are built on the affection they feel for their partners. We don't stop to think about the cultural, or even family differences, that come along with the "wedding package."

This is explained by the fact that in love, and do not think about the existing differences. Of course when we love, we tend to overcome some obstacles, because living the difference is enriching. But with daily living, we come to show our true self, we put aside some sweet behavior, depending on the routine, the rush, and even the fact of accommodation for what the marriage goes through.

However, not everyone is able to deal with this new reality, nor to tolerate the frustrations that the relationship begins to present. The dreams collapse, and the relationship that was harmonious at first turns into arguments and accusations, and we get lost in this immense wave that takes the couple's life. If taught by our parents, for life, to swim and get around the big and small waves, the relationship strengthens and we survive. But if we don't have this condition, we end up drowning in the midst of so many discussions and differences in marriage.

Who has no acquaintance who goes through this situation? Or even lived the damage that an unharmonious relationship can cause?

It is important to be able to contextualize and review beliefs we have about marriage, seeking professional help. When we are involved in the relationship, we have no perception of how double the relationship is, not a single way, depending on the couple's action to adjust the marriage, and together they can rebuild life.

But what often happens is that because one is so focused on accusing the other of the bad relationship experienced, one ends up forgetting to look at oneself and takes the responsibility of performing assertive actions in search of the harmony of the relationship. .

There is nothing like stopping to reflect and seek solutions such as dialogue, affection, tolerance, as initial actions for the recovery of marriage, it is important to remember that the actions depend on both parties, not just one partner.