We grew up with the children's stories populating our dreams, as Cinderella's, Sleeping Beauty's novels soon conquer the children, turning the world pink. Beautiful dolls displayed in stores, with their loved ones, well-delineated bodies, form a perfect setting, where imagination runs wild, and dreams of play come true.
But in the adult world relationships don't work that way, so perfectly. Many women and men when choosing their partners seek their soul mate, as if the other had the power to complete and guess their innermost desires.
We become frustrated to realize in reality that relating to each other is not that simple, coming across reality.
We charge behaviors, feelings and actions, which the other is not always able to offer, and frustration appears as a dagger, which hurts and leaves them bewildered.
The act of falling in love alone already stirs our instincts, the dreams we grow up believing as real, along with the ecstasy that the relationship provides. In the first half of this year, the notary's offices of the State of São Paulo performed 6,721 divorces, an increase of 286% compared to 2010. In the same period last year, 2,348 acts were performed. The balance is from the Notarial College of Brazil? São Paulo Section (CNB-SP), which gathers the notary's notary's offices.
And how to find the partner who can somehow complete us? First you need to drop the perfect wedding myth, because when we live with another person, it must be clear that each one came from a family, with different beliefs, habits and ways of relating.
Certainly when relating to each other, will bring into the relationship these forms of coexistence, which is often quite different from what is used to. This goes for both!
Based on this fact of reality, the first step in meeting someone who has aroused great interest is to know the way he relates to his family of origin, and to pay attention to differences in creation.
It is often quite clear that some partner behaviors differ greatly from what you think is appropriate for your thinking and acting, but we tend to disregard these facts, and once the relationship materializes, problems begin.
Many of these discussions that lead to the separation of the couple, is based on the fact that one partner behaves very differently from what you think is ideal, hoping that the other will be perfect for you, disqualifying the life bag he brings.
At this point it is very important to evaluate together what are the behaviors that really affect the life of the couple in a negative way, if they are sensible requests, in which will build the relationship, or if they are requests that only aim to satisfy a whim of one of the partners. .
Is this the most important tip for anyone who wants to start a relationship? Do not get involved without evaluating these aspects, as this is the first step towards successful relationship.
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