Female Masturbation: A Pleasurable Method of Self-Discovery

Pri Barbosa

Sexuality is a very important aspect of most people's lives. But while men are free to exploit it, women have their repressed sexuality reduced to an instrument for male pleasure. This is why topics such as female masturbation are still considered taboo.

We talked about this with psychologist Carmen Silvia Costa Elias Fernandes (CRP06 / 37259-8), Master in Psychology and Health and Health Psychology Improvement Supervisor. She helped us understand the issues surrounding women's sexual self-awareness and the benefits of female masturbation.

Content Index:

• Why you must overcome the taboo
• Practical guide
• Tips for pleasure alone

Why you should get over the taboo and masturbate

Exploring your body is a practice that has numerous health benefits. However, whenever we mention female masturbation we are greeted with annoyed glances. According to psychologist Carmen Fernandes, taboos are practices interpreted by society as dirty, wrong and bad. Therefore, when performed, arouse a feeling of guilt in the individual.

Breaking the taboo around female masturbation is becoming more and more urgent as it brings benefits not only to physical but also mental and obviously sexual health. Masturbation is an exercise in self-awareness and should happen naturally, creating intimacy between the woman and her body and making her understand her limits and needs.

The Hysteria video talks about the socio-historical importance of female masturbation and the exploration of our own sexuality. Tantric therapist Carol Teixeira encourages women to try to overcome the limits we ourselves impose during this exercise of intimacy.

In addition to strengthening the bond between a woman and her body, masturbation helps relieve stress: During orgasm, the brain releases hormones that promote a sense of well-being. It can still be a great ally against insomnia and other stress problems. What's more, pelvic movements performed during masturbation help strengthen the pelvic floor muscles, helping to prevent urinary incontinence and relieving menstrual cramps.

For Carmen Fernandes, female sexuality has been migrating from a logic of sin and repression to liberation and pleasure, giving them greater sexual freedom. This makes sex life fuller and more enjoyable because when a woman knows her erogenous zones and knows how to achieve orgasm (or multiple orgasms), even sexual intercourse with another person becomes more satisfying.

Mine How-To Guide: Step by Step Getting Started

Pay close attention to the hygiene of your hands before touching. Long nails can damage the vaginal canal, which increases the chances of bacteria proliferation and infection. Sex toys should be sanitized after use and stored in an appropriate place and should not be shared.

1. Free yourself!

The first step is to break free from the mindset that women should not touch each other. Take possession of your body and get rid of paradigms about how a woman can feel pleasure.

2. Know your body

Did you know that the clitoris has over eight thousand nerve endings? Yeah! It's hard not to feel pleasure in touching such a sensitive place. It is under a skin, right on top of the small lips and just above the urethra. In fact, only the apparent part of it is there, because the clitoris as a whole is much larger. When we are aroused, the blood flow in the region increases and it becomes more prominent.

3. Discover your erogenous zones

Clitoral stimulation is often the most pleasurable for most women, but that's not the rule. So explore your body and discover its erogenous zones! Some tips of which may be: ears, breasts, inner thighs, belly area below the navel, neck, nape, butt and your mind. If she is stimulated, we have already walked halfway.

4. Lubricate Yourself

Lubrication is essential to facilitate contact with the intimate regions. You can use an intimate lubricant, your own saliva, or, if you are already very excited, the natural lubricant produced by your body. If you are not comfortable with direct contact, try touching yourself over your panties.

5. Get around

A good tip is to make circular movements in the clitoris, using mainly the middle and index fingers. Sensitivity may vary by region, try to find out where you like best. Eight- and zig-zag movements are also often very pleasurable. Some women also like the feel of light tapping.

Do not ignore the small and large lips? and no other region of your body. If you want to try sex toys or introduce your fingers, you can make? In and out? and the movement in which we slightly bend our fingers within the vaginal canal. It is said to stimulate G-spot, and although there is some disagreement about it, it is hard to try.

5 tips to enjoy (VERY) pleasure alone

Many women have difficulty reaching orgasm during intercourse. This is due to the lack of knowledge that many have about their own pleasure and how they like to be touched. Do women who masturbate find it easier to direct their partner on what they like? besides knowing how to reach orgasm alone.

1. Create the perfect environment: Search for a private place where you know you won't be interrupted. If you like, look for a sexy playlist to get in the mood.
2. Create your momentNow is not the time to think about anything but yourself, your body and your pleasure. You can go putting the phone in the silencer, see?
3. Seduce yourself: It may seem strange at first, but think that you are in the company of someone else and try to use the various devices to feel for yourself the same desire that you want others to feel for you.
4. Get excited: If none of this works, you can look for erotic content to read, for example. Then begin the touch in various regions of your body, searching for what really turns you on.
5. No pressure: Masturbation is much more about the path taken than reaching an orgasm. Enjoy the moment and if you don't get orgasm this time, that's fine. But if you arrive, remember that you may have more than one!

The pleasure of an orgasm can be a very strong sensation. This ends up scaring some women, but know that it is normal. When you feel you are ready, look for more information and spice up the relationship with your own body. You are absolutely capable of pleasure on your own!

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