For Mario Quintana, ?Friendship is a love that never dies?, but can we use this phrase in our daily lives?
In the following, I will give a brief account of a real story (whose names have been changed), which exemplifies how a situation can shake or end a friendship:
Ana and Leticia had been friends since kindergarten. They were inseparable. One day they both met a boy. He and Ana fell in love at first sight, but Leticia had also fallen in love with him. Because of her friend, Ana decided not to take the relationship forward, but Leticia discovered their passion, felt betrayed by her friend and ended the friendship.
Examples like this are quite common, but other reasons can also shake a friendship, especially when it involves money, family, society, employment and so on.
So is it after an? Earthquake? Is it possible to save a friendship?
Well, like everything else in life, prevention is and always will be the best medicine. We have a great difficulty in knowing what are the limits of our relationships, with friendship would not be different, who has not had a friend who wanted exclusivity and was jealous of others around him? Who didn't have a shaken friendship when they said? No ??
In an increasingly consumerist society, where what matters is TER rather than BE, we move away from real relationships (laughter, hugs, conversation). Having a social network full of friends has become a source of pride. With overexposure on the internet, the famous? Indirect? or? pokes? have replaced dialogue and problems so simple become big snowballs. To be someone in the world is to assume one's role within a society, to stop looking at oneself and look at the other and in a two-way street, give and take.
Therefore, if friendship is shaken, we must accept that this friend is a human being with defects and qualities. There are friends who are great companies and bad confidants and so on. It is no use demanding perfection of the other, because we are not perfect either.
One thing to note is how much expectations we place on this person (not just friendship). We grew up watching movies and soap operas with the love of the prince charming and friendships that kill and die for us. In real life things work differently. Once we accept the other as he is, and not as we would like him to be, dialogue, apologies, and mutual forgiveness become easier.
And, as Drummond de Andrade said: How do friendship plants should not be too much or too little watered?.
When Someone Wants to End the Friendship (And it's Not You). (May 2024)
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