Skills You Need To Have To Be Happy In Marriage

Marriage is one of the most traditional institutions in the world, it has existed since antiquity, but since its inception, have not yet invented a step-by-step guide to a perfect relationship or a happy marriage manual, unfortunately, which causes Many relationships are broken in a short time.

In December 2012, IBGE released data on divorce figures in Brazil in 2011 and saw a record increase of 45.6%, which means over 351,000 divorces. According to IBGE, this increase is due to the fact that, since July 2010, Brazilians no longer have to respect the deadline of at least one separate year to be able to file for divorce, as was the case until then.

As the number of divorces increases, so do the numbers of remarriages, meaning people who want to remarry, after all, no one wants to be alone.

If you are already or intend to enter into a relationship first, it is essential to keep in mind that this is a difficult decision. As much as there is love and complicity, coexistence, division of responsibilities, daily life can all make the relationship difficult, and if the couple has no waist, everything can go downhill.

To help you with this mission, check out some golden tips that everyone needs to know before getting married. They may not save your marriage, but they are sure to avoid common breakdowns.

Exercise emotional control

Not all are flowers in a marital relationship. As good as the couple can be, small discussions are a part of everyday life, and to keep them from becoming larger, maintaining control is critical. At the time of the discussion, avoid changing your tone of voice, if possible, wait for the mood to calm down so that you can talk more coldly about the subject, as in the heat of the discussion you can both be driven to say things you shouldn't and that might cause a very big hurt. So try to keep control for the sake of the relationship.

Keep up the dialogue

Knowing how to speak is as important as knowing how to listen and this is true for all types of relationships, whether they are marital, professional or just social. If you have a problem that plagues you, share it with your partner. This way, he will feel comfortable doing the same and can better understand when you are going through a difficult time. Share your woes and share your longings. Maintaining dialogue helps to increase complicity between the couple and avoids those misconceptions that often occur when one tries to imagine what is happening to the other. Put everything on clean plates always. And leave the door open for when he wants to be heard.

Learn to yield

In certain discussions, both parties are a little right, so every now and then you will need to give your arm a twist. Obviously this cannot and should not come from you, but now and then, especially when the discussion is going nowhere, it costs nothing to agree so that you can go to sleep well and hug.

Be an accomplice

When we enter a marriage, we always set a fixed deadline: eternity. And since it's supposed to be, it has to be worth it. Being an accomplice means sharing good times, having to count on in good times as well as bad ones. Be a friend, be your mate's best friend, create as many bonds in common as a music band, or a type of show that's just both of you. This increases the couple's complicity and makes the relationship much healthier.

Respect individuality

Marrying someone does not mean dying to the rest of the world. Your partner will continue, and this is very healthy, to have your friends, your programs, your moments of individuality to be respected. Likewise, you should keep your friends and do the things you always did that don't make sense to him. Respecting the partner's individuality, rather than an obligation, is a proof of love and maturity.

In addition, cultivate love. Marriage has no magic formula, but that old story of the little plant that needs to be watered to grow is all about reality, so take good care of yours.

Be sure to share these tips with your partner so that they can also collaborate on the relationship, so that both are in tune, caring for and cultivating the marriage together.

Skills for Healthy Romantic Relationships | Joanne Davila | TEDxSBU (April 2024)