10 excuses to avoid sex and how to circumvent them

Are you making too many excuses for your partner not to go to bed? Get rid of them, and enjoy the advantages that sex can bring to your relationship! Know the main excuses and learn how not to let her undermine your sex life:

  1. I'm very tired today
    Between work, children and home, it is normal for you to feel tired at the end of the day. But beware, if you are always using this excuse as an abbreviation for "I don't want to have to deal with you now". Sex will not take you so much sleep, on the contrary, it will make you sleep better.
  2. I have work to do
    Do you really need to do this now, or can you sit down tomorrow and finish it off? If technology is your passion, get your computer out of the room right away. Having it at your fingertips eases your work addiction.
  3. I'm not happy with my body right now
    Women tend to put vanity ahead of intimacy. When the man wants sex, though, he doesn't care about his breeches or fats. If you think losing a few pounds will make you feel sexier, go for it, but don't think your body has to be 'perfect'. Do little things that make you feel sexier, such as adopting a new haircut or wearing a new lingerie.
  4. Kids may need us
    This can happen, but you can also try asking friends or relatives to put your children to sleep and return the favor when they need it. But remember: If you make it clear to your children that mom and dad need private time from time to time, you are shaping a good relationship and teaching them boundaries. Then lock your bedroom door and turn on a song so no one can hear them.
  5. We have sex many times a week and that's not right
    When your partner wants to have sex and you use the argument that this is not right, you make him feel bad for wanting you, according to psychiatrist Carole Lieberman. It doesn't matter how often you have sex, but what you both want. If both of you, like many couples, have incompatible libidos, talking about it and trying to find a solution is much healthier than just refusing your partner's onslaught.
  6. There's a cool movie on TV
    If an electronic device is on the list of your priorities above your partner, this is a sign that you need to review your concepts. Pay attention to him and talk more, to increase the connection between the two and make sex more enjoyable.
  7. Our schedules do not match
    Incompatible times are common in couples' lives. But who says sex has to happen at bedtime for both of them? You can resort to the famous quickies at lunch or in the afternoon. Try it, it will make your relationship much more interesting!
  8. I'm menstruating
    If having sex during your period does not seem like a good idea to you, he should respect that, but sex itself is not his only option these days. Also, showers do wonders for us at these times.
  9. I'm mad at you now
    If your anger is a tactic to delay your intimate contact with your partner, you may be damaging your relationship. If you are feeling resentful or even slightly irritated, inform your partner and work on resolving these issues. "Can sex ease anger or make what was making you angry, seem less important?"
  10. Sex for what? I never have orgasms at all
    When you prefer not to enjoy sex, you are not giving yourself an opportunity to improve your skills as a lover. Imagine how you would feel if he told you that you don't always like him in bed? You would be upset, and you would want to know what to do to make this moment better. Tell him that. Your silence is not helping anyone.
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