Advantages of relating to older men

Older men exert a certain charm in the female imagination, as it is usually expected that, by having more experience, these men will already know what they want, even in their love life.

This kind of behavior delights many women seeking more stable relationships who are tired of men with childish behaviors.

Security and maturity

Although not a standard, older men are usually safer about themselves. Clinical psychologist Pamela Magalhães points out that older men can bring a more peaceful and stable relationship. ? There is no rule, but there are greater chances of finding more emotional maturity in older men, which greatly facilitates the affective relationship ?, ponders.

For manager Rebeca Novelleto, who started dating executive Ricardo Novelleto (currently her husband) at 23, the 28-year difference was never a hindrance. The manager confesses that the relationship only brought her good things: “I see no disadvantages. Is there nothing that disturbs our relationship ?, he says.

Better sex

Given greater experience, more controlled hormones and anxiety, older men tend to be better in a very important field: sex.

The psychologist and sexologist, Carla Cecarello, reveals the reasons why these men can perform much better sexual performance:? (Older men) are in no hurry to get anywhere, ie, respect more the woman's sexual time ?, account.

Is the relationship even better?

Rebeca recounts her experience: If the girl likes electronic music, ballads and pool party every week, it will be harder to find the same things she likes in a much older person. I was looking for a quieter person, had already tired of hype ?, remember. ÜI never had patience for boys my age. I always thought them foolish. Deep down, even without knowing it, I was looking for a centered, romantic, experienced person and when I met my husband I saw all this and more in him?

The affinity between the couple is essential for the relationship to work: Ricardo has always been very young in head, body and soul, likes to have fun but without exaggeration. We always did everything together, we like the same things. He is a super partner ?, says Rebeca.

Another great advantage that Rebekah sees in her relationship with a man 28 years older was the biggest concern for health: “Today I am calmer, he taught me a lot, especially regarding health. He takes care of himself a lot and have I met him like that? And complete:? There were many changes, from food, physical activities, practicing patience, tolerance and other things that only added me with being human. Today I am a million times better at 35 than 23.?

To work out a set of factors must be in harmony, such as plans, goals and desires. According to Carla "Everything will depend on what you are looking for in your relationship with the other." Pamela shares the same idea: "Age matters least when we speak from the heart," advises the psychologist.

Relationships need mutual effort and cooperation to work, and compatibility between partners: “Any relationship needs flexibility, dialogue, generosity, compatibility of plans and the bottom line: a willingness to make it work,” says Pamela. Carla shares the same opinion and adds: “Happiness is related to the way we lead life, according to our view of the world, ie emotional maturity.”

Care

Although they also occur in relationships with men of the same age, it is good to be careful not to get hurt in this type of relationship.

In some cases, more mature men sustain trauma or addictions from previous relationships, which may compromise the current relationship.

Another issue concerns motherhood. In some cases, men already have children from previous relationships and no longer want to be parents. In these cases, the decision is very delicate, as Pamela points out: “If being a mother is a must for you, talk to your partner a lot and agree with him the best alternative. And if you come to give up this dream because of the limitations of the relationship, then it is not worth blaming you for it later.

Partners of any age may be jealous but older men tend to have this feeling more often. The partner's energy and vitality should not threaten you and a good conversation on this subject is key.

Another very important question: the older man is not his father and it is very important to have this difference very well defined.Carla warns of this kind of situation: "Many women get carried away by the overprotection and security attitudes that a man of this age can provide and end up transferring to him a brotherly, fatherly love, and then things get completely confused."

Preconception

The prejudice of society is another obstacle that can arise and it is very important not to let this interfere in your relationship: Unfortunately learning how to deal with prejudice and circumvent it will be a challenge. But most importantly, believing that the path you choose is what makes you happy and ready !, notes Pamela.

Rebeca says that at first some people did not welcome the relationship: “My father made it a little difficult, but it was soon resolved. Some people wanted to give me advice but I didn't hear anyone. Her determination to maintain the relationship paid off: a solid marriage that has lasted 12 years.

Every relationship, to be successful, needs both partners to exercise understanding, understanding and a willingness to be together, regardless of age. “A little patience, thoughtfulness, and an interest in sharing a life together will make all the difference,” says Pamela.

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