Brigadier pot in the arms, a movie on the DVD? preferably romantic and quite mellow, pajamas, hair tied in a ponytail anyway and a pile of dirty handkerchiefs right next door. It would be comical if it were not tragic. Although the sight of a newly single woman is almost a cliché of romantic Hollywood comedy, ending a relationship is not funny.
For women this is usually a phase of introspection and rediscovery of itself as an independent and free human being. Seeing yourself in isolation from others can be difficult and even sad, it's hard to relearn how to be self-reliant after we spend a certain amount of time sharing our lives with others. Complicated, but necessary. Check out our tips for recovering quickly from an unsuccessful relationship.
Cry
This is the first step in healing the grieving period, so don't want to look strong. You won't be able to get over the loss by hiding it, so prepare the box of tissues and start throwing out what is hurting you.
It was bad, it hurts and crying, more than a right, is a necessity right now. Really cry, wash your soul, but beware: don't disturb your friends with the whiner, because the idea is not to play drama, put yourself in the role of victim or ask for advice. You don't need advice, you need to detox from that love.
Take a few days to allow yourself this sadness, but set a deadline? something between three days and a week. Deadline, wash your face and engage in the next steps.
Cut ties
It is not easy, but it is the best to be done. Past the valley of tears, find a way to return all of your ex's belongings that are still with you, as well as retrieve any of your possessions that eventually stayed with him. Yes, everyone, without grumbling. If possible, do this through someone else. The less you meet the better.
Some women may have the (false) feeling that finding their ex-boyfriend will make him rethink the decision to break up. This strategy, in addition to being inefficient, may turn against you, who certainly don't want to see the cat with someone else anytime soon. Delete it from Facebook, MSN, Twitter, in short, exclude the potential for further hurt.
Value yourself
If possible, go shopping. Choose new clothes, a book you've long wanted, a beautiful shoe, make-up items, or all the alternatives. The important thing is to remember how wonderful you are to be who you are. If the guy didn't see it, it's his problem, there will be those who see.
Spend time with yourself, get your nails done, watch a show you enjoy on TV, hang out with friends if you feel like it, spend a whole weekend doing nothing specifically. You have to be the most important person in the world.
Do not fall into temptation
Sometime after the breakup, it is normal that you feel like looking for your ex, but try to avoid. Phone calls, messages and meetings? Casual? (yes, you will notice that it was planned) can bring false hope and cause unnecessary suffering. The hardest you have ever done, so don't throw all the work in the trash.
Resist, too, answering any calls he might make to you. Meeting them is taking the risk of getting hurt again, because chances are the guy just wants a stay and nothing more. Weigh the options and decide if it's worth risking.
All of these attitudes are ways of initiating a reaction to termination and preparing your emotionality to return to living as a single, self-confident woman. You don't have to play ballad, but you must resume activities that make you happier. Finally, keep in mind that terms are inevitable. Face them, excel, and feel better after all.
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