Women are complex creatures and very difficult to understand. While they demand from their companions that any and all traces of their ex-girlfriends be erased forever, many still keep that folder with the best moments of previous dating and rollers hidden in the recesses of the computer.
After all, is it right to continue to keep memories even after the breakup of a relationship? In fact this is a theme that should be discussed and defined by the couple. Photographs, after all, do not pose a real danger to? Health? of the relationship, but can be very annoying. This is because they convey the feeling that you still think of the past, miss or want to go back.
According to a survey by Friends Reunited in England, published in the Daily Mail, 43% of Britons keep photos of old relationships on their computer or even in albums. Of this percentage, 20% of men hide the files from their current partner, most for fear of a jealousy crisis. The percentage of women hiding ex pictures is only 9%.
Although 17% of men report feeling remorse for hiding the photographs, 12% admit they do so because they still feel something about their ex-girlfriends. On the female side, those who miss their ex are only 5%. Since there is no specific recipe for storing your ex's photos, some tips can help you decide what to do with them.
Swap places with each other
Before deleting old photos or deciding to keep them safe, put yourself in your partner's shoes. Would you mind if you found the same kind of photos on his computer? If you answer yes, do not require from him an attitude that you have not yet taken: get rid of the old files. As painful as it may sound, it's the right thing to do.
Don't Play Sherlock Holmes
The general rule is: who seeks, finds. Don't keep looking at records on your boyfriend's computer, like you're an FBI agent. Unintentionally though, he probably has some pictures of the ex-nonsense there. If you don't want to hurt yourself or argue, better avoid rummaging through the other person's privacy. Especially because you probably wouldn't want him to do the same to you.
Bet on trust
If you still find a file that displeases you, don't quit fighting then. Take a deep breath and evaluate the situation: It may be that the photo is there by chance, without any real intention of your partner. Not to be unfair, avoid talking about it on time, wait until the anger has passed, and call it for a frank conversation.
Do not delete files without his permission. Are you the girlfriend, not the boy's owner? and any such attitude will be a great lack of respect for his intimacy. If he flatly refuses to delete the photo, showing a strong emotional attachment to it, it may be the right time for you to have a long dialogue about your relationship.
If the boy, however, is surprised to see the file and is willing to delete it or store it elsewhere, give him that vote of confidence. After all, it is the basis of any relationship.
Understand special situations
Could it be that the photos in question are of a nice trip he may have shared with his ex? or graduation, a year-end, and other special situations. In such cases, it is natural that he wants to keep the memories not specifically for his ex, but because they were important moments in his life.
If so, swallow jealousy and understand your mate. Everyone has a loving past and there is nothing more boring than having a person who is always jealous of that past.
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