Who could have imagined that this beautiful baby you had spawned in your womb for nine months would grow so fast? In the blink of an eye the children grow up and there comes a day when they want to lead a life of almost? Adults ?: work, go out? flirt!
Nowadays dating has started earlier and earlier. We often come across such young couples holding hands in line at the cinema, strolling around the mall or petting in public. The question that arises is, where does the stimulus for teens to want to start dating so early come from?
According to psychologist Fabiane Moraes, does the stimulus come from the media? television, music, films that mostly address issues such as relationship, sex, betrayal, dating: "With the knowledge on these themes, curiosity and willingness to reproduce is great," he says.
What is the ideal age to start dating?
Psychologist Fabiane says there is no ideal age to start dating, but a few points to note by parents: It is important for parents to assess how prepared and mature their child is to date, as a relationship involves responsibilities. . Is this teenager prepared to deal with relationships and conflicts?
It should also be taken into account that adolescence is a phase of developing friendships, studies, body and behavioral changes; Therefore, a relationship could be detrimental: If the teenager is unprepared, the chances of the relationship failing, or being a drag on growth in other areas, are great. says Fabiane.
For the psychologist some mature faster, others tend to take a little longer, so usually a more suitable age for dating would be after 15 or 16 years.
The importance of dialogue and boundaries
Each family should decide how old their children will be allowed to start dating. But it is important that the dialogue is always open, regardless of the decision. Parents should have the role of guiding their children on issues involving a relationship, such as:
- Maturity,
- Conflicts,
- Prevention,
- Sexually transmitted diseases,
- Contraceptives,
- Teenage pregnancy.
If the dating has the endorsement of parents still be careful: • some limits in the relationship should be set, such as not leaving alone, or arriving at a certain time at home. It is important that these limits are combined before dating, as it becomes much harder to control later? ends the psychologist.
Teenagers & Dating... our kids are GROWING up! (March 2024)
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