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May 1, 2024
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When to plan a pregnancy?

Even married today, the woman is and wants to be independent: she studies to have a profession, works outside the home to help with expenses, takes care of the house and especially the family.

Data from IBGE (Brazilian Institute of Geography and Statistics) indicate that 66.4% of the female population is formally or informally employed. Already the Ministry of Education (MEC), shows that about 2.8 million of enrollments in higher education are occupied by them. How to give up so many appointments to get pregnant?

In 1962, when the birth control pill arrived in Brazil, women were able to choose at what time in life would mothers. This was just one of the factors that contributed to the decline in the Brazilian birth rate, which registered 1.9 children per family in 2010, compared to 5.8 in the 1970s. We are living in a time of greater individual freedom. The woman can decide the best time to get pregnant, and even if she wants to be a mother or wants to have a child without getting married. Unlike in the old days when they were? Prepared? home since childhood? says psychologist Vanessa Pik Quen Lee.

O best time for pregnancy should be defined by planning for the future mom's life. According to Dr. Vanessa, the way to go before motherhood is to build a career and achieve stability in both professional and personal life. "There is a behavioral trend, pointed out in the statistics, that shows that many women choose the right time as the one when they have achieved personal, marriage, career and financial stability," he suggests.

But this is not a rule. The best time is individual. The woman must be receptive and willing to dedicate herself intensely to a human being totally dependent on her. There are those who want be a mother when young because it has more energy, disposition and affinity or tune with children. Others prefer to assume motherhood when they are more mature, when they feel safer, more prepared and experienced ?, explains Dr. Vanessa.

For psychologist Vanessa Pik Quen Lee, "having one or more children does not prevent a woman from succeeding in life." This reinforces the idea that the ideal time is when the mother feels prepared to take care of the baby. Having financial conditions and stability in personal life, even without being married, in the case of independent production or adoption, is important for a healthy and happy childhood.

Ana Lúcia Alves decided to have her first child at 30. When she became pregnant, she was not married yet, but had a stable relationship with the child's father. In any case, her professional life was better resolved, she is an occupational therapist and works in the area of training. “Today my son is two years old. I was able to improve my working hours to spend more time with him, since I was already established in the profession, and felt safe enough to take care of a child?

It is also worth remembering that there is still social pressure for every woman to have a child, but this is not a real obligation. There are those who prefer not to have children and this decision must be respected. A woman who is not a mother is no less a woman than one who has. Therefore, each one is free to decide if they want to have children and when and how many they want to have.